Dating is not fun. It wasn’t fun in my 20s. And if I had to do it in my mid thirties, God have mercy on my soul.
The only advice I can give you is to put yourself in situations where you meet people. You don’t have to go out looking for a relationship to find it.
I think its better to just find like minded people to do activities with, and eventually you will find someone who likes you, and you mesh with.
The road to that place is long and sucks ass, but you’ll get there.
As for the suicidal ideation, I’ve also been there. Go out and exercise, and touch the grass, socialize with other people, and if you drink, stop doing it so much. But, also, get enough sleep! That is easier said than done, I know.
Once I started getting enough sleep, trying to set a bedtime for myself, and if necessary, drug myself with sleep aids to go to sleep, my suicidal ideation pretty much disappeared.
Now, if you do all that and you’re still having suicidal ideation, see a therapist if you can. Best of luck, life is hard.
I wouldnt say it’s something you can’t or even shouldn’t do. But if it’s making you feel bad, take a step back and ask yourself why it makes you feel that way. Keep in mind, people with ADHD often have issues with low self-esteem. That goes double if you’ve had an kind of trauma. You should be kinder to yourself about these feelings you are having.
Dating is not fun. It wasn’t fun in my 20s. And if I had to do it in my mid thirties, God have mercy on my soul.
The only advice I can give you is to put yourself in situations where you meet people. You don’t have to go out looking for a relationship to find it.
I think its better to just find like minded people to do activities with, and eventually you will find someone who likes you, and you mesh with.
The road to that place is long and sucks ass, but you’ll get there.
As for the suicidal ideation, I’ve also been there. Go out and exercise, and touch the grass, socialize with other people, and if you drink, stop doing it so much. But, also, get enough sleep! That is easier said than done, I know.
Once I started getting enough sleep, trying to set a bedtime for myself, and if necessary, drug myself with sleep aids to go to sleep, my suicidal ideation pretty much disappeared.
Now, if you do all that and you’re still having suicidal ideation, see a therapist if you can. Best of luck, life is hard.
Thanks for the words of support. Genuinely happy things have gotten better for you. In many ways, they’ve also been getting better for me.
In other replies I’ve approached why I want to ‘date’ rather than evolve but maybe it’s just a case of it’s yet another thing I can’t/shouldn’t do.
I wouldnt say it’s something you can’t or even shouldn’t do. But if it’s making you feel bad, take a step back and ask yourself why it makes you feel that way. Keep in mind, people with ADHD often have issues with low self-esteem. That goes double if you’ve had an kind of trauma. You should be kinder to yourself about these feelings you are having.