I got divorced like 5 months ago after a 9 years with this girl who cheated on me, emotionally abused me, etc etc

I’ve been suicidal since the split, getting worse by the day still, and literally nobody ever asked if I was OK, aside from my mom. Even when I begged close friends for support they basically just ghosted me. My ex is surrounded by support, from the same people who I thought were my best friends.

Do I just have shitty people around me or is this just what guys deal with? The attitude towards me is just “get over it”. I’ve lost almost everyone I’m close to because of this and I’m starting to think there might actually be one viable option of getting over it because existing is simply torture. All of 2025 felt like just a bad dream but it’s unfortunately real.

Edit: Yes I have a counselor - a very good one I see weekly.

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    7 days ago

    Hey, I recognize you from some of the memes you’ve posted and I appreciate them.

    Can relate to most of what you have said in this thread and yeah… Understandable.

    Still, there is more to life than other people. What about you, what you like and what you care about? Maybe now’s a good time to be selfish and enjoy things just for you.

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      8 days ago

      I will post more memes because of your compliment :)

      That’s what I have been working on in therapy. I think I never fully focused on myself in my relationship and that’s why I’m so devastated. She was my only emotional support system

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        8 days ago

        Abusive relationships tend to be like that. Now you’re free and can make up for lost time. There’s too much good music/movies/food/video games/nature to enjoy to let it go to waste. DM if you ever need someone to chat about it with.