I got divorced like 5 months ago after a 9 years with this girl who cheated on me, emotionally abused me, etc etc
I’ve been suicidal since the split, getting worse by the day still, and literally nobody ever asked if I was OK, aside from my mom. Even when I begged close friends for support they basically just ghosted me. My ex is surrounded by support, from the same people who I thought were my best friends.
Do I just have shitty people around me or is this just what guys deal with? The attitude towards me is just “get over it”. I’ve lost almost everyone I’m close to because of this and I’m starting to think there might actually be one viable option of getting over it because existing is simply torture. All of 2025 felt like just a bad dream but it’s unfortunately real.
Edit: Yes I have a counselor - a very good one I see weekly.
Pretty limited information, but based on it being hard to imagine a group of compassionate people all siding with the person who did the cheating, my guess is that your “friends” probably suck. My advice isto sign up for a community college acting class and try hard to immerse yourself in it. Acting and getting involved in theatre totally cured my serious anxiety problems. There’s something about it that helps you get unwrapped from yourself and want to explore other people and the world more. My other advice is don’t define yourself as “the divorced guy” - especially when socializing with new people. They aren’t gonna want to hear all the gory details. Dig into your personal interests and what makes you happy and focus on those things.
Or the friends don’t suck and they sided with the ex for very valid reasons not mentioned here
Or the friends are space aliens. Or OP made it all up. Or you’re just dreaming this and you have a life. So many possibilities!