so I decided to no longer speak to my ex because we were actually very close still even after breaking up but he was giving me less attention and wasn’t there anymore. Wouldn’t properly listen to me and stuff and it made me feel belittled. We stopped talking 5 days ago but it ended kind of petty way so I messaged him a long message yesterday being thankful and stating why and when I got hurt and that I am proud of him for other things. He did the same. He did mention that he’s more appreciative of me after not talking for a bit and he see’s how much I care and he’s embarrassed by the way he had acted and all of those things. He regrets not calling me his “girlfriend” and all of that. But now we are done since we haven’t texted since the closure. He knows how much I tried to make things work and he said he felt like an idiot for not seeing that blah blah.
I am getting over it but I think what hurts most about this closure is that he states all of these things but then again if he wanted to make things work or regrets anything in any way, why not try? Or try before? U know? He holds such a big amount on my heart and it breaks me so much to see all my effort gone to waste and someone never fighting for me. I just want someone to fight for me and want me regardless. If you want something, you do everything you can to take it. He just wasn’t emotionally mature and it sucks.
From what you said it sounds like it’s good and over. Time is all that’s left, and time is the only cure for a broken heart. I know it sounds trite and corny but it’s true! I’ve been so broken up it physically hurt. It will be better, and feel better in time.
If you’re anything like me you’ll always keep a part of your heart for him regardless of what happens. But if you’re growing as a person your heart will only grow. And someday soon his section will be a teeny tiny little footnote, something to look back on fondly.
Now the trick is not to make any dumb choices in the immediate future. You’re hurting, and it’s gonna be real hard not to let that hurt inform your decision making process. My advice: lay low. Hang with some good friends, eat some junk food. Spend a couple of weeks doing nothing. You know you’re truly ready to move on when, in those idle moments, your bored rather than hurt.
Good luck and lots of love!!!
I know time heals. I was in a relationship 4-5 years ago that lasted basically 3 years, much longer. That one took me 2 years to get over tbh. Still think about it here and there. I don’t have much friends tbh, the one main friend I have I feel like she’s not rlly there u know? Emotionally wise. I try to talk but it’s always the same thing and I feel bad. But I love being alone.