That’s fair and only you know your situation. I’m just speaking from my experience as a dad, and what I have seen from other dads. You’d be surprised how often grown men and women get intimidated by elementary school teachers. Which is easier to avoid when you see them as a teammate with you instead of an authority figure. I frequently ask them how we can coordinate our efforts with my kids when they get it trouble. Not that that happens too often.

I have also noticed that my kids have more trouble certain years because of who the teacher is, and who they sit near. But my kids say that has nothing to do with anything and die on that hill. I’m not saying this in relation to what you said, again only you know. But it is always good to remember that our perspective of our childhood memories is developed by our childhood brains. It is impossible to know what we missed and how different our perspectives would be if we re-experienced them as adults.

But, sincerely, sorry your dad was a tool about your needs. That’s sucks.