I’m gay. I’m agender, and I like enbies better than men and women.
The other day in an argument I got frustrated with someone and told them to call me a homophobic slur. One part sarcasm, one part hoping they’d actually do it and get in trouble. Instead, I got punished for using the word. I wasn’t expecting that, because I’m gay. If I call myself a f-----, I didn’t think that was anyone else’s problem.
Was I right? Is it okay for me to use that word, talking about myself?
You can reclaim slurs. Of course, ability to read the room is very useful, because in some settings using slurs, even if you’re referring to yourself, isn’t considered acceptable, like you don’t swear if you’re talking to kids or having dinner with your granparents.
Well, your not supposed to, but tell that to my mouth.