• Soup@lemmy.world
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    The neurotypical urge to not have a good enough answer and then bully the autistic person for asking the question.

    (Not a comment on the post, just a frustration)

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          It was a joke.

          I understand that there are hardships linked to our condition, but many of them are not caused by our condition, rather by the world not willing to accomodate us the same way they accomodate NT’s.

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            That’s the same with most disabilities. For instance, blindness does have some intrinsic hardship, but then it also has the hardships that come from a society that assumes you have vision and does not accommodate you.

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          For some people absolutely, but “day-to-day life” is built to not only serve “neurotypical” people but generally to make sure the worst of them don’t need to actually improve anything. Pretty much entire concept of “polite society” and the cowardly basis behind so many instances of “that’s just how we do it ok?!” are rooted in people who cannot effectively communicate blaming you for not being exactly like them and/or afraid to speak up against their authority. People who “don’t understand social situations”, in my experience, are often just people who have a harder time letting assholes steamroll though and like, yea it sucks for them when society punishes them but it’s not their fault that society is a collection of highly flawed rules whichbessentially boil down to demands to not question authority.

          Some autustic people have genuine problems that give them problems even when/if those around them have the patience to work with them. Many just make certain worthless people insecure and that’s not their fault.

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            All of this.

            The majority of social disabilities wouldn’t be disabling if it wasn’t for the fact society is intentionally structured to be oppressive and restrictive in order to maintain the power of the ruling authority.

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        Yeah we’re different to NTs, we have different perks but defecates in lots of areas.

        I fit in well enough but notice where I’ve said something that’s quite specific to my interests or believed something that was obviously a joke. Shit sucks but every day it gets easier, lean into it and don’t be afraid to be yourself.

        We’re not normal but fuck it we ballin’

        edit: leaving the autocorrect in, was a ~1am post for me 🫠

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      The neurtypical urge to agree what the autist is saying is correct, but refuses to accept it or act on it because they don’t like the way they are being told about it, then to in the end blame the autist when the predicted catastrophe comes because ‘you didn’t try hard enough to convince me’

      It has brought be very close to being arrested more than once and I’m sure I’ll be in jail over this in the fullness of time.