b) “Because even if I could read your mind, I’d still not be able to figure out what you want.”
c) i) One time soon, don’t even get to the point of this conversation. Just make or order two of something you can both eat. Plonk a serving of it in front of them. “I don’t want this.” “You hate being the one to choose, so tonight I chose for you. Tomorrow’s your turn.”
c) ii) Make/buy something you want for you and something you know they can eat for them. Conversation as above.
c) iii) Make/buy two things they can eat. One for you, one for them. Offer a swap if they don’t want the one you give them. Conversation runs differently. They can make a last-minute decision after all.
d) Not sure this one will work in your situation: Grab menus from local take-outs and restaurants, even ones from places that make things you usually make at home. Maybe write your own home menu. Present your partner with this stack of menus in the order of your preference. You’ll only need to explain this one once if it’s a habit worth forming.
e to z) Some combination or variation of the above. Adjust sensitivity levels accordingly.
a) “Because when I pick, you always say no.”
b) “Because even if I could read your mind, I’d still not be able to figure out what you want.”
c) i) One time soon, don’t even get to the point of this conversation. Just make or order two of something you can both eat. Plonk a serving of it in front of them. “I don’t want this.” “You hate being the one to choose, so tonight I chose for you. Tomorrow’s your turn.”
c) ii) Make/buy something you want for you and something you know they can eat for them. Conversation as above.
c) iii) Make/buy two things they can eat. One for you, one for them. Offer a swap if they don’t want the one you give them. Conversation runs differently. They can make a last-minute decision after all.
d) Not sure this one will work in your situation: Grab menus from local take-outs and restaurants, even ones from places that make things you usually make at home. Maybe write your own home menu. Present your partner with this stack of menus in the order of your preference. You’ll only need to explain this one once if it’s a habit worth forming.
e to z) Some combination or variation of the above. Adjust sensitivity levels accordingly.