Tyvm!

Thank you!

Thanks!

My instance does replace slurs with ‘removed’ though

This shows up as fiddlrts.removed on my Lemmy instance. Does the top level domain coincidentally include a slur? :p

Nothing to worry about whatsoever. My high school cohort and I ended up all over the world - some in countries with 3 year programmes, others in countries with 4 year programmes, others who dropped out or changed fields and started over.

I promise you that it does not matter. What matters is that you achieve your own goal of getting a bachelor’s, at your pace. :)

No worries!

Thank you!

I am aware of it in the broad sense, but not the fine details of tracking certain disabilities and such. Thanks for giving me a pointer on what to look up. (Obligatory “I am not American.”)

I’m not American and it was a genuine question. No need for that.

Who are “they”?

I’ve been boycotting them for a while (BDS), but it’s good to see that more people are joining in.

I am an atheist because I do not believe in god, not because I think that a god cannot exist. I am an atheist because the burden of proof is on those who claim that a god does exist. If such proof were to exist (and pass scientific scrutiny, not rely on faith), I would believe in a god.

I understand what you’re saying, but in reality, the definition of ‘atheist’ is a lot broader than you are asserting. Simply not having belief in a god to begin with is enough to be an atheist.

An atheist can, but does not necessarily, reject the notion of a higher power inherently.

If there is a god (or gods) then there is a god (or gods), and if there isn’t then there isn’t. There’s no reason to mull over something that has had no bearing on my life and if tomorrow we get irrefutable evidence for either side that’s when I’ll deal with that new reality. In the mean time there are better things to do.

Hugely relatable.

Neck tie, if it were a bit bigger.

Yes, this. This particular comment best summarises how I feel about the topic.

You already know this, but I’ll reiterate it in case it helps you get over whatever guilt you might be feeling about it: you can’t. If you have already offered them a non-judgemental space to vent and have expressed that you’re there for them, then you have already done more than any friend should be expected to.

You say “it doesn’t rest in [your] hands alone”; it doesn’t rest in your hands at all! Your desire to save your friend is very admirable but it also sounds like it could be self-sabotaging to some extent.

“Rehab doesn’t work” is a blanket and not entirely true statement. There are a million different pathways to recovery; not every programme works for every person. Maybe try to explain this to them.

Beyond that, the best thing you can do for them right now is to disengage and remain distant. You don’t deserve to have their pains inflicted on you too.

P.S. I am speaking as a recovering addict. One of the things my recovery has taught me is how much of a burden being an addict is to other people. The thought of a relapse hurting my friends disturbs me. Your friend might resent you for turning them away, but when they do start recovery, they will not only understand why; they’ll appreciate it too.

FWIW I am trans and I 100% agree with you. Been thinking about making an account on another instance, just not sure which yet.

Not to detract from your point, but gender dysphoria is a medical condition. The brain undergoes sex differentiation in utero, and the rest of the body usually but doesn’t always match this.

I had dental treatment on the NHS and it was £20 or so charged as a flat fee (so irrespective of what the actual problem was/what needed doing), definitely not £70? If it’s gone up that much since then, that’s absolutely crazy.

EDIT: nvm, just looked it up, you get charged one of 3 ‘bands’ (lowest is £26.80 which is what I was charged, and the highest is £319.10). I never knew it was so pricey, as I ended up having to go private after moving anyway, since nobody was taking NHS patients…

My gf and I are poly. She has a gf. It doesn’t bother me at all. You should talk to your husband; his resentment isn’t necessary. It sounds like everyone (your daughter, her bf, his gf) are all aware of the situation and consenting. What’s the issue?