I’m gonna talk out my ass for a minute, I haven’t actually done any focused reading on most of the tidbits I’m about to discuss. Just putting together a lot of disconnected thoughts and anecdotes I’ve collected over the years

I’m remembering that the phrase “white pride” only exists in imitation of the phrase “black pride” and the accompanying explanation for why one is absolutely not at all problematic while the other is unabashedly supremacist. That explanation being that “black” references the culture common to that group of people which, in the case of American black people, can’t really be narrowed down to any one country. While it can be narrowed down (mostly) to one continent, that still represents a fifth of the Earth’s land-area and therefore includes a lot of cultures that don’t have anything in common.

So, “black culture” then is a sort of (the word I’m about to use may be problematic, I don’t know, it makes sense in my head but I’m white and have no idea how it might feel to have someone else describe me this way) “prosthetic” culture. I’m thinking, because they did lose a real part of themselves but, because there are so many others with the same culture-esque background in America, the phrase “black culture” refers to a real thing that exists.

Now, the other direction. “White culture” is problematic because, what culture is it that “white” people share? People who are “white” have a cultural history already, they don’t need a prosthetic. I know I come from something vaguely Scots-Irish. If I could be bothered to look into that more, I could surely find clubs, celebrations, or whatever kind of pageantry I wanted to validate that identity. But what cultural history do I have in common with this other random “white” person who it turns out is actually Romanian?

And that brings me to the best bit! Take all the people who are considered “white” today, put them in a room and have them discuss with each other, looking for the single attribute that their culture shares with the most other cultures in that room. I would guess (totally out my ass here, I have no idea) that the one thing most cultures have in common today even the ones currently considered “white” is that they used to be persecuted for their non-whiteness.

I don’t have any numbers for that. I’m just thinking about how, for example, Italians didn’t used to be “white”, Irish people didn’t used to be “white”, or Romanian people are still kind of struggling to be considered “white”. Or we could take it another way, Jews aren’t “white” regardless of their skin color (though of course the state of Israel is likely to sterilize anyone whose skin is too dark…) and I remember a stereotype about Catholics that sure seemed to fit in the category of non-“white”.

So, now I don’t remember what the subject of the post I’m writing this in was…

That looks promising! Thanks!!

I’d be interested in a watches community

While your argument is sound, a server can’t feed their children or care for disabled parents with sound arguments and principled stances.

I usually aim for the nearest dollar around 30%.

I’m a defense contractor and none of the “work” I have ever done in my life has done any human any good. I think it’s important to use my nonsense salary to pay the people who actually add value to society.

You describe the ex friend as pressuring you to dump you (in the past) to dump your (at the time) bf and date him instead. This is a person who doesn’t respect your agency or value your happiness.

It’s possible he could be a pleasant experience for a little while, but it wouldn’t last. He wants to be with you not because he believes he can make you happy–that is the foundation of a worthwhile relationship.

Rather, he wants to be with you because he has fantasies about the person he imagines you are. He doesn’t care about who you are, if he did he would care about the relationship you were in and would care about your choice to be in it. He “cares” about who he imagines you are, his fantasy girl who wants him enough to leave her partner. If he were to find out you’re a person, a human person who doesn’t idolize him, the target of his fantasies would change.

The following is a representation of conservative thought:

Because it defies belief! Everyone knows any real superhero team would have NO women, women couldn’t be superheroes! Movies only force us to have women there because of Woke. We can “tolerate” (will still complain about but will give Hollywood our dollars anyway) a 5/6 men/women ratio. If we gotta pretend to be Woke, it better not be more than five sixths!

Source: I was raised in a conservative household and did not fully reject that poison until I was 27.

I’ve never worried about it too much.

Usually, I clean my glasses with a microfiber cloth which I’ll occasionally toss in the general laundry.

Sometimes I’ll clean my glasses with soap and water using just my fingers, then dry it with just a handy bathroom towel and then my microfiber cloth.

all your hands?

This reads very well!

I think starting the statement as a request for help in the analysis really works.

I just fuckin finished All You Need Is Kill, that was a neat story!

In a Groundhog day loop, I can tell you that suicide would become so much more casual…

And you seldom bring anything serious into the bedroom…

Hah, look at this guy! Amateur, right??

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…right?

OP: “god, it’s hard being a paraplegic and trying to run…”

You: “guys, don’t listen to this asshole, being a paraplegic means you can’t run. If this person were actually NPD, it would be an extremely positive sign for them to seek to improve themselves and since we can see this person trying to improve themselves, they are clearly lying and manipulative. Classic NPD.”

Log off and touch grass. You can come back when the stench of your self righteous diarrhea of the mouth fades.

I think you raise a very valuable point here. “Narcissist” is so often used simply as a label for the villain with no consideration for the terms use as a medical diagnosis.

In your case, you may be labeled a narcissist but you make a continual conscious effort to account for the weaknesses implicit in that diagnosis. This is different from the vitriolic insult so often used to condemn people.

This is a failure on our part, in the way we use the term. You may be (technically) a narcissist, but, you are not “evil” in the way that others popularly labeled “narcissists” are. You are a good person.

Ahhhh gold old nuclear boyscout…

That is my understanding. I remember hearing stories about dudes visiting a dump or whatever, kicking through the screen of a CRT and getting zapped like fuck

Okay so.
I… have a friend…
who has difficulty ejaculating with a partner but never with masturbation. He thinks because the problem never arises with masturbation, it couldn’t be caused by medication. Is this logic sound? Or could his antidepressants be the reason he’s limp-dicked for real women?

I find an effective means to resolve my anxiety is to consider the worst possible outcome and resolve within myself if that is an outcome I can withstand.

Hmm… I haven’t observed that pattern myself so I can’t speak from personal experience but… if you’ve got right-wing-douches complaining about your work that might be effective advertising to your target audience?

I have a question of my own that isn’t quite related but is in the same pond of water. I’m considering writing a story from the perspective of a post-op trans-masc person. I worry about a trans story coming from my mouth though, I’m a cis het white male American.

I have begun composing the story based on the following logic. Before I worry if I’m the right person to tell a story, I might as well write the story first and judge its merit once it exists. Plus, I could then take the story to trans people and ask them if this story feels honest/respectful.

My question is this I guess, does my logic make sense? Are there any points you would recommend I keep in mind as I work on this story?

I’m in your seat.

I understand that all these platitudes about how a person should behave are good things, so I try to do them. I try to be a good person in all these ways and try to not be an asshole is all those.

And here I am as an unhappy mid-thirties autistic fuck with unfilled needs. I don’t understand how to weigh my own needs against all these platitudes, if I need it but it’s bad to seek it in any of the ways available to me, then I won’t get it. Simple.

Whereas other people have some magical spectrum they measure things on that tell them when it’s okay to break any of the rules they believe in because “this was right for me”.

Edit: Excuse me, I’m really grumpy today