I had a black cat once. She was the smartest, funniest little thing and her farts were deadly.

Personally, I don’t think GoT was good past season 4. The drop in quality writingwise was staggering and characters like Jaime were being progressively treated like a joke because they cut out significant parts of the plot from the books and flat out skipped a whole book because they got bored. Jaime’s arc in the show stopped being good after season 4. Just like everyone else’s. His arc in the books was way more interesting. He didn’t go back to cersei and go get Myrcella. He was put there leading sieges and shit while leaving cersei behind to her own devices.

It’s sad we will never get the rest of the books, but I’m sure George would have thought up something way better for Jaime than what they did to him in the show for the last four seasons.

Meanwhile, Zuko’s arc worked because they knew what they were doing with him from start to finish.

Thanks. I was starting to feel bad about killing that cat.

Him talking to a frog is one of the best things in the show.

I love that once he lost his anger, he’s just a massive dork.

Zuko is tenthousand times better than Jaime.

Literally me with money, lol.

I don’t have an official diagnosis, just some traits, but one trait I don’t have is the impulse spending. I mean… I do have it. I am impulsive and have tendencies to impulse buy certain foods and stationary if it isn’t too expensive.

But I am so fucking terrified of going into crippling debt, that it curbs any impulse to buy anything expensive ever. My spouse wants me to loosen up a bit and treat myself a bit more, but I cannot allow myself to get used to spending money on unnecessary things.

Was on the phone with him earlier today and we went over some dvd films we would like to buy for our collection (I compiled a very long document with movies and shows we should own) and I spontaneously came across an ad for acrylic brush tip markers and went down the rabbit hole with him on the other end. I think we talked about the markers - I explained the difference between acrylic and alcoholic markers, the difference between felt tips and brush tips and why acrylic markers with brush tips was a pretty big deal - the manufacturer, the prices, shipping and the history of the company and where it was based and spouse ended up saying “well, you can place an order on the movies and the markers. You should treat yourself” and I immediately closed all the tabs and went “nah”.

I swear, if I was single and living alone, I would become one of those weirdos living in squalor while having a fat, untouched bankaccpunt by the time I die an old hermit with no heirs.

Poverty scares me so much I’m willing to live as one forever.

I am waiting any day now that the bank will send me an email, scolding me for having some magic, secret debt I never knew about and that I will end up on the street with my poor boyfriend who won’t know what hit him. Anxiety is an irrational bitch.

Well, they got to dip out to Nangilima while I’m still stuck here in the cave, being force-fed tiramisu >:'(

That asshole did this to me because Katla had cravings. That bish.

Covid legit fucked me over too, lol.

As a Dane, I had myself a dad-joke chuckle since the word mis is our word for pussycat.

Regrettably no. I would imagine myself unhinge my jaw and eat all the trees and brushes we would pass. For whatever reason, kindergarten-me strongly believed that everything without a heartbeat looked very delicious and edible. Trees, clouds, snow, sand, windmills, brick buildings, flags, other cars, busses and the sun itself.

Grew out of that phase when I began school, but yeah. In a way I kinda miss being so young and new to living that you’re still figuring out what is and isn’t possible. The world seemed a lot more fun when you didn’t yet know the rules, lol.

Tbf, both sides have had a tendency to have some rapid people who control the public conversation, attacking anyone whose opinions vary even the slightest from theirs. I have had the displeasure of meeting a few of the leftwing ones on this platform and they tend to be entirely unself aware about how extreme and hostile they come off to others.

It’s the reason I ended up filtering out as much political content as possible. I left corporate social media because I wanted to get away from mindless hateful lunatics, but honestly, this place is just as unbearable as the rest of social media if you let it hit you unfiltered.

And I have also experienced being accused of being a fascist despite being very much center left. Some people are fucking insane on here. Just as insane as some of the crazy right-wingers I have had the displeasure of encountering.

Ideological fanatics suck no matter what side they are on because nuance repulses them and everything is a paranoid search for an enemy to attack. I want nothing to do with people who behave like that.

Sounds like hell, man. I hope that you find another medication that doesn’t mess with you like that!

It says a lot about you that your takeaway from my comment was that being kind and encouraging to kids is spoiling them.

To normal people: be nice to kids because they need the support and encouragement to grow into stable adults with a healthy sense of self worth.

To the selfish people: be nice to kids because you never know when you might need their mercy in the future.

My boyfriend of a decade and a half told me he had been suspecting I had it for awhile. He had been suspecting it for years. Just never said anything because we were managing pretty well and he didn’t want to throw a bomb into my life unless it was necessary.

When he told me, I was in the middle of having a mental breakdown over my inability to focus at work. He told me he felt I deserved to know because he hated how hard I was on myself and he wanted me to understand that I couldn’t help it.

It changed a lot for me when he said it. In a way it felt like something clicked into place, sort of. I have since spent a little over a year learning about ADHD and understanding what my symptoms are and where I am similar or different to the listed symptoms.

I have tried to get a referral twice. First time the doctor I saw refused to give me one and instead acted very inappropriately with me. The other time I got my referral from another doctor, who was more professional and then I just kinda stopped the process from there. I tried to find a psychiatrist, but it was very overwhelming and the system was very disorganized and confusing to use so I couldn’t. I also found out that apparently this whe thing is extremely sensitive to me and the few times I managed to find phone numbers to call, I would start crying uncontrollably and being unable to call anyone because I was so embarrassed about my emotional outbursts.

I decided I would look into it later when I was in a better place mentally, but everytime I have even tried to take a step into getting diagnosed since then, I become very emotional. I don’t know how to describe it. It’s very embarrassing. I am also extremely terrified of being humiliated. I dont have the best experiences seeking help for mental health stuff so I’m very scared of going through something like that again. And to put myself in a situation where someone is literally there to question my life experiences and determine if they are valid or not. That just fucks with me in ways I can’t describe, so while I would really love to be officially diagnosed, I am just too scared of the emotional toll the process would take on me. My boyfriend feels the same way. It was one of the reasons he didn’t tell me about his suspicions at first.

So for now I’m living my life with the knowledge that I probably have some form of ADHD and I try to be a bit more forgiving of myself when I mess up and I try to embrace the parts pf me I tried to erase my whole life. In that sense, it has helped me a lot. Even if it isn’t ADHD, it does help to keep in mind that I have always done my best and that my best just isn’t as good as most people’s average.

If you feel comfortable answering: what were your side effects?

I am not diagnosed either and I too have managed my life somewhat okayish so far because I have some really good people around me, but at the same time I know A LOT of ADHDers irl and they are all very different both when it comes to severity of their symptoms and what types of symptoms they have.

What is somewhat manageable to me is impossible to others and what others are able to do, I am unable to myself.

I know high functioning ADHDers and I know severe cases where their symptoms are so bad, even when on medication, that they will never be able to function in society.

If I may compare, you and I may be partially blind. It is definitely enough to affect us in our daily lives. At least it is for me. But we are able to manage and somewhat navigate the world and we can still see shapes and colors, just very out of focus.

What you’re essentially doing with your post is asking someone who was born without eyes to see as well as you do. “Just get some glasses. It worked for me.”

But they are blind, bro. They don’t have eyes. Both of you are blind, but blindness is on a spectrum, just like ADHD is.

I never considered that what I was dealing with could be ADHD because the ADHDers I had known up until that point were the severe cases and they never got any better. Some of them didn’t try at all while others really did their best and yet they still failed constantly.

I’m relatively good at hiding my failings so people don’t notice unless they are paying attention. But I still fail almost daily despite having tried all types of organizing systems, scolding myself into getting my shit together and establishing this and that routine. I always fail. I keep trying, but I will never be able to get good at having structure in my life no matter how much I want it. I can see shapes and colors, but I cannot read you that sign over there. No matter how much I try, I just can’t.

Or be Danish:

American: I have been to Denmark! I love Denmark.

Visits Copenhagen only 🤡

Especially offensive if you are a Jut like moi. You motherfuckers come here and think Copenhagen is Denmark, yet entirely ignore the rest of the country and especially Jutland where the vikings lived, Amleth’s grave is, where the king’s used to be crowned, the earliest Danish law that predates your frigging country by several centuries AND it is the place that Tolkien based Middle Earth and characters like Eowyn on. You could literally go visit the real Helms Deep, Isengard, Aros and Esgaroth and you could go visit the place of the legendary shieldmaiden Hervør who inspired Eowyn and in some ways Aragorn too.

But no no. cOpEnHaGen is Denmark. The one city in Denmark where no one speaks Danish, lol.

Fuck me. For a second I thought it was Chewbacca in an ugly, yet adorable sweater.

I hope you’ll have a gentle and beautiful day too. 💗