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  • I delete the vast majority of what I type out. Mostly stuff that’s personal experience based that, while adding to the conversation, doesn’t really matter to anyone and isn’t that interesting.

    I start writing it because I care enough, and stop when I realize nobody else will.

    Sometimes I let myself finish fleshing out the thought, then delete it, but often I just get the bulk of my thoughts out and give up when editing it. I’m pretty verbose, and don’t really have much of an outlet in real life, and I’m an anxious mess about interactions, so… it’s just a way to relieve some of the pressure without it impacting anything.




  • Honestly, and I appreciate your feedback, I can’t imagine that’s actually my problem since I don’t have a life, but am super into protecting my personal security. I have 2 browsers running at most, plus voyager. Typically no other apps. And it crashes mostly while I’m actively writing stuff. Not on swapping. That’s why it’s so frustrating.

    But like even if that weren’t the case, it would still be super frustrating even if some other related app had a similar problem in the past…? Like I’m asking it be done if possible. I know it’s a big ask.



  • My Russian professor one year had an after-semester dinner party at her own house, complete with some of her family and friends showing up to play traditional music and teach us about the foods they made and stuff. There was indeed dancing and instruction of such, as well. And yes, everyone clapped, because that’s a traditional way to keep beat with music, especially music meant for movement.

    It was a really small class, but all the same, that sort of thing does happen, especially with language teachers in my experience, because they also want to teach culture. Those were most of my coolest (other than my very wacky physics prof).




  • SolarMonkey@slrpnk.nettoMemes@sopuli.xyzSorry to be a bother...
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    8 days ago

    People do that to me all the time. I just seem to radiate safety and people dump everything. I get that they need it, and sometimes (when I’m in a good headspace) I’m happy to provide an outlet for people who need one, but it gets really exhausting. I don’t even like small talk, I only bother with pleasantries because I’m supposed to, apparently.

    (That trauma dumping is totally not the norm around here…)



  • I have a cat who, through no fault of her own (every cat from that queen is neurotic), is super neurotic. She suckles blankets, has zero self control, and does naughty things that she knows are naughty. She can’t help herself. I can watch her in real time process the conflict and she still goes for the thing she knows is bad.

    It really sucks to have to deal with that sort of energy when you wanted the opposite. (I had a pair of kittens, along with a pair of adults. One of the calm kittens failed to thrive and died the same day as one of my adults so I was a mess, and the only other kitten I could get on short notice was the neurotic “spicy” kitten. The other adult, who was the whole reason I got kittens at all, died unexpectedly a few months later)

    But they do learn that their behavior is unwanted with frequent calm reinforcement. Mine are about a year old now, and all I have to say is “hey (name), please stop”, and they both mostly do. The neurotic cat still has self control issues, but I think of her like someone with ADHD, which I can relate to. It’s just hard to do things that don’t satisfy that impulse. But she’s really trying and I can tell.

    You’ll probably get to that point too, and it’s super super frustrating for that first year or so until she learns what is and is not ok. But you’ll make it. You’ve absolutely dealt with worse and more frustrating things, if you still can’t stand her when she’s a year old, she’ll still be adoptable young, and it’ll give you time to hash out the issues with your partner so she fully understands your position and the logic behind it.

    My method of reinforcement was to gently remove her head from whatever thing, and say “(name), please stop”. I’m still working on the suckling - it’s harder to stop because it’s a comfort action, but she doesn’t attack my hands anymore (that was just not engaging, removing hand, and ignoring for 5 min), doesn’t chew cords or table corners, etc. it takes a ton of reinforcement, but it does work. Cats are scientists, they explore the world by doing things to it and seeing what happens. If the result isn’t great, they stop.

    I don’t really have a solution to the space issue, but maybe you can employ your fiancée to distract the cat while you recharge and prepare. It may also help with the attack issue. If she’s not into the toys you have, try getting different ones (wand toys with changeable heads, laser pointers, but you have to end with an attack toy or they feel unfulfilled, heck I have a staircase, and use a mouse on a string to wear out my cats by making them run up to get it then dragging it back down. They burn out very fast that way.)



  • 8 was so bad with randoms. You can go like 2 inches at a time between over world encounters. And they were so time consuming even when it only took 2 hits to kill everything - intro transition, battle animations, victory splash… so long!

    I have no idea how I managed to sit through those back in the day. Sooooo tedious.

    I like the tales series for how they did, mostly dodgeable, but combat could also be fully automated if you were bored. And there’s a lot of combat, so it gets boring. Needless to say I used auto combat a lot (not for bosses or unique enemies tho). I’d prefer if it didn’t do the battle transition, but I understand the function of it.


  • I’m sure there’s stuff like that which I can’t think of at the moment…

    I “practice” saturation organization, so this doesn’t really come up a lot anymore. (Which translates to: I’ve lived alone for a long while and have replaced many things I’ve lost, only to find them again)

    What saturation organization means is you have multiples of things you lose a lot but need or very much want. Can’t find scissors? Buy a few packs of them. Screwdrivers? Get a few magnetic head-change ones.

    What happens is that I occasionally clean and put everything back “in its place”, but as we all know that lasts about 5 minutes, then I lose it again… but since I have a bunch of them, even if I can’t find one in the place expected, it probably won’t be more than a few minutes looking in all the major places to find one.

    Like I know for a fact that I do not have a pair of scissors in my junk drawer right now, and that I have something like 7 pair of them, but I also know of a half dozen places that are very likely to have a pair. So losing them through a failure of object permanence and general disorganization isn’t such a burden anymore.


  • I solved this problem by buying a 1 month 4x/day pill case thing (so it has 32 4-compartment strips or 128 individual compartments). I only take pills once a day, so I portion out everything I have stock for, and renew the prescription order. When the next pill bottles arrive, I refill again. The VA doesn’t send the next batch until a certain time increment has passed, no matter when you refill (70 days for a 90 day supply, for example), so most of my pills have been used by the time I get more, but I have about a week to actually refill the cases.

    The only thing that ever gets moved is the 4-day-worth strip, and when it’s empty I just swap it with the next one in the row. The pills that don’t get portioned out go into the drawer right under where the pill cases are. Impossible to lose track of.

    I tried a one week pill case… no good for me. I never refill it in time. But when I have multiple weeks between the task, it’s much easier to keep on top of. Especially with the additional signal of new pill bottles.

    For variable dose, temporary meds, or if I want to schedule morning adhd meds, I can use the end of the month days (my system only fills about half the strips), portion out whatever I think I’ll want/need, and put those in my bag to go with me wherever I might need them. Could just as easily have those in the kitchen or bathroom as a reminder, that just wouldn’t work for me, since it’s not my normal routine to take morning doses (I was on super high dose adhd meds as a small child -like they won’t even give me that dose now as an adult- and it kinda fucked me up, so from 13-34 I was unmedicated, and now I have them for when I really want to get something done, but I rarely use them cuz man do they make me anxious)

    This method does not keep proper track of which days they have been taken, so if that’s important info, you may want to invest in a different style of month-supply case or label the compartments differently, but it does a great job for me.


  • SolarMonkey@slrpnk.nettomemes@lemmy.worldPastas Assembled
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    I haven’t really run into ps5 issues, but then physical media is very difficult to find for 5, so I only have 4 games for ps5 vs 50+ for ps4 (I don’t buy digital games, ever).

    But I guess I don’t really pay much attention to it either. As long as it works well enough I don’t usually mess with the display settings other than turning gama waaaaaaay up so I can see shit properly… my tv doesn’t support hdr, which I think became standard in 2017, or anything newer than that which newer games are built to use, so I mostly just leave the defaults alone. I definitely notice some games are smoother than others, but that could just as easily be the texture pack or resource utilization as well.

    Back when I was playing games on my phone, I’d actually turn down the refresh… sure this game can run at 120, but it can also run at 30 or 60, let’s see what the lowest I can stand is! I don’t do that anymore, but it was good for battery life :)


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    11 days ago

    I used to have a 4k tv I used as a monitor. It was 60hz. When I was tired, my eyes would vibrate back and forth trying to play nice with the frame rate, blurring everything up. Very difficult to read. Huge increase in headaches.

    Switched to 120hz tv (all other specs equal) and the problem stopped entirely and hasn’t resurfaced in the 6 years since.

    A person may not notice it directly, but it does matter.

    I don’t really notice in movies and stuff but those are so damned chaotic anyway that it probably really doesn’t matter as much. (I don’t like live action, it’s difficult af to follow)

    I haven’t noticed in games really but i mostly play console where that’s not really something you can usually tweak


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    11 days ago

    I have a 12 gallon pot I use for the same.

    If it didn’t have the spout off the front I’d probably use it for a lot more stuff like huge batches of chili (for canning). I end up using multiple pots for that instead because I don’t want to have to clean around the dumb thing.

    But the drain tube makes it soooo easy to strain the broth.




  • It’s because their bodies are closer together in back, and perspective is a bitch.

    Think of it like a triangle, the side of them furthest from us is the top of the triangle, their feet form the two bottom corners, one corner per person, and her body appears to be situated further back (based on her back foot being behind his back foot). Her shoulder is probably in his armpit. So since their bodies are close at the distant point, and the arm is the one closest to the apex of the triangle, it looks like it wraps around too far.