Yeah everyone forgets things but how many people have ever had their car repossessed while also having enough money to pay off the whole loan because the crappy bank that gave the best interest rate doesn’t have a convenient autopay system?
I don’t think people are thinking of absolution when they recognize these kinds of things are part of their disorder. It’s commiserating with your fellow sufferers on the absurd, counterintuitive, and inconsistent nature of the damn thing.
It certainly matches up with my ADHD experiences including a past relationship. First diagnosed at 24 or maybe it was 25 and being rather sociable I met people through whatever my particular interest was at the time. Tennis, ju jitsu, volleyball at the park, biking, frequent gym routine, hanging out at a local bar. Most of these were pretty active things until a jackass in a blue gi messed up my knee and slowed my physical activity down considerably for a while.
Girls I met who were really into one active thing were usually also on board with trying another active thing even if it didn’t stick for them but I started to notice a difference between our philosophies on hobbies and interests.
A byproduct of ADHD for many is the ability to learn and acclimate to a new interest really fast and it wasn’t long after my diagnosis that I came to understand my frequently changing interests were replacements more often than they were additions.
When my knee became an issue I got really into cooking, then magic the gathering, then D&D and other table top games, and pc gaming in general. The girl I was dating at the time helped by being a really good point of reflection as I jumped from interest to interest and she was struggling to follow despite still enjoying each other’s company. She liked that I was enthusiastic about things and loved that energy but since she wasn’t able to share my new interests as well it strained our relationship a bit.
I was in therapy with a great doctor regarding my adhd diagnosis still at the time and she helped me through the stages of grief that often comes with ADHD diagnosis. Realizing that despite my efforts I will not always be able to control the way it changes me, my perception, and expectations of others I came to this understanding of self made rules when interacting with partners who do not have ADHD:
I must be clear about my opinion on tasks and topics early. I must make sure they understand my experience through the lens of ADHD is likely very different from theirs. I must communicate how a thing feels calmly when the context is still fresh in their mind. I must work with them to establish a fair system of equal compromises because neither of our own ways is more “right” than the others in most circumstances. I must try to recognize when I am facing a task or responsibility that my disorder will make me resent completing and I should share that feeling and explanation with my partner whenever I can.
Keep in mind these are some psychotic “I must always obey these internal rules!” kind of things but rather they are helpful reminders that I am not the imagined high energy, happy go lucky person I sometimes come off as and being up front about my quirks helps set the right expectations in a relationship. Not everyone can deal with an ADHD partner and it’s shameful as well as harmful to yourself to try and trick them otherwise even if you do it with good intentions.
You do not need to feel ashamed of false advertising because with ADHD, it was never really your choice. Even in this post you still wish you could enjoy that interest but the fact is, you don’t and that really sucks because it’s one of the things ADHD has robbed you of.
If you are just about to get your diagnosis then make sure to get into some therapy too along with medication if you go that route as you will likely start learning a lot about yourself now that the mystery of your nature is made more clear.
Its like putting on glasses for the first time if you grew up with bad vision. You never knew how many details there were in some things ubtill you could see them through new eyes and once you start to learn more about ADHD and you can recognize things in your life enough to ask “is this a me thing? Or is this an ADHD thing?” you will gain a much broader perspective.
Oh and to answer your final questions, yes this sounds a great deal like ADHD to me with a healthy dose of strong introspection and unfortunately medication does not treat this part of the disorder. The meds are a crutch to help you focus on things you don’t want to focus on naturally. Everything else will need to be treated by you learning about what makes your particular brain tick the way it does.
Eh I mostly agree with you but if you really expand the scale of it all I think it starts to at least make a little more sense why some smaller groups pop up now and then raising awareness for one specific proclivity or the other. Actually it has a lot to do with what you just expressed I think.
It sounds like your opinion about preference and rejection comes from a place of self confidence. That’s a good thing but I’m sure you can imagine how that could be harder for people who don’t understand themselves and their own feelings as well.
For many people, sexual preferences are not a big personal issue that will cause them a great deal of stress in their day to day life. For some, the very fact that they do not align with their peers can make things really uncomfortable and uncertain especially around the more formitive years of establishing who they are as a person even just in their own mind.
Even heterosexual people have to achieve that introspection but we get the benefit of having lots of personal relationships with similar leaning people to build our frames of references.
Sometimes that is also an optuion for the more common non-heterosexual variations but that is mostly thanks to the greatly increased social presence which has the simultaneous effect of reducing the general stigma around such topics.
The more successful these groups oh like minded people become in projecting their influence the less they need to do so but most of the groups who championed these causes over the last decade or so realized how powerful an impact just growing awareness had for so many people that would otherwise have no support from their peers and while it’s not quite as necessary to raise awareness as much for the most common members (the L-esbians, G-ay, B-isexuals…) the rest are still trying to catch up with the leading edge of the awareness movement.
TLDR, the spreading of broad awareness isn’t so much about labeling themselves for people who don’t care as it is for the benefit of others who feel the same way but don’t know they have peers that can help them understand themselves.
Seems like the best strategy don’t you think? There are no real pros to pushing a pointless copyright claim and only negatives would come from doing so.
Eh, they deserve a little hostility.
Last time I fired up a game I owned on steam that required the ubi launcher was a few years ago now and it was really bad then. Like to the point of it automatically creating a new account for me and forcibly linking it to my steam profile despite it not being the account I already had with ubisoft from a registration I had created on an Xbox console previously. It permanently divided my library between multiple ubisoft logins and made accessing the right one really annoying. Their support wouldn’t let me refund or even migrate the title to the correct account and they made it an even further inconvenience by not letting me unlink my steam profile from my (wrong) ubisoft profile without writing in a physical letter for some stupid reason. Something to do with purchase history not overlapping with the steam profile or honestly I don’t even remember anymore but it was more than enough to no longer want to do business with them.
If it’s improved to the point that it’s just a pop-up I’d be willing to consider them again. I really don’t want to support ubisoft themselves but I’d love to support Prince of Persia games. If any other studio owned the IP I would have bought it on release day
They are making progress by not delaying all of their releases on steam but man that launcher is a nuiscance.
I was too hostile to the company in my last message, honestly I used to enjoy their games. And in general I enjoy the types of games they produce. I’m a sucker for open world stuff but I stopped buying their games when they started trying to emulate the EA strategy of remaking the same game every year and inflating dlc.
I’ll happily welcome them back into my library when they drop the launcher component and lean in to steams networking features for easy coop and such.
Just the other day my buddy and I were looking for a coop open world action game with decent combat, he stumbled onto ghost recon wildlands or maybe it was the sequel but either way once we saw it was ubisoft we moved on to look for other title and ended up choosing an entirely different genre despite that being what we were looking for
Ubisoft is in the hotseat because they let their suits have too much power over the games they produce.
I am a fan of the prince of persia series and based on the reviews I’d seen I was really interested in this title. But their absolute refusal to participate in the steam ecosystem and insistence on pushing their launcher means that I, as someone who values my own time, am not going to bother with their nonsense.
They don’t understand their customers anymore. Not well enough to shift the direction of their company’s initiatives. They deserve to fail even when they do manage to produce fun and interesting games because they are bad at the business aspects of being a game publisher/developer.
Yeah I mean obviously all these people must be wrong. It is a masterpiece whether you vibe with it or not but I just don’t see how it comes off as repetitive to someone.
I bought it digitally on release day so my slightly-above-casual-gamer GF could play on the switch and then a few days later I pirated a copy to play on my steam deck and pc interchangeably. While I would have no major qualms about buying additional copies, Nintendo’s insistence on maintaining their native control scheme in a western market will guarantee that many core gamers like myself, who are familiarized with Microsoft and Sony control schemes, will shy away from their products.
I can only have my immersion and fun interrupted by canceling out of a menu or action so many times before I’m just not that interested anymore despite having given it an honest try more than once.
Whine all they want about piracy but I doubt they aren’t losing a significant number of legitimate sales from it. Most people who buy Nintendo consoles and games are loyal to that ecosystem from my own experiences and wouldn’t bother with learning how to access pirated materials.
So yeah I also pirated it and would pirate another game from them too if I felt like giving it a shot but even if pirating wasn’t an option, I would never buy a Nintendo product for myself.
Thanks for sharing but there is no need to help solution this example that happened more than a decade ago.
The original poster of this comment chain said something minimizing the severity and impact ADHD can have in a person’s life to the effect of “everyone forgets things, get over yourself”
My comment explains that there is a casual level of forgetful and an ADHD level of self sabotaging forgetful which is one of the things that makes it a disorder and not just a person who is a little careless.