A supervisor should understand the concept of respecting people’s boundaries. You could always say something like “Hey I’m not really in the mood to talk right now” or “This isn’t something I want to talk about”. Just a fair warning if you do this, you might get labeled as the odd one the same way you mentioned if you go to HR (the HR one would be a bit worse if I’m being honest).

There’s no problem with that. It’s clear based on your responses that you’re just trying to understand it and wrap your mind around it. Just thought to give you a heads up about the term in case you start using it or something.

I see where you’re coming from. Just keep in mind that the original intent of the group has been stolen a long time ago, something like 10 years ago at this point. At this point these people aren’t a sub-group of incels. They’ve completely co-opted the term and rebranded the incel term. Anyone who was originally incel for the right reasons has run off so far away from this term they might as well be in another planet. And I don’t blame them, who wants to be lumped into misogynistic assholes who fantasize about killing and raping women as well as underage girls simply because they think they’re entitled to sex?

It started off as people who are involuntarily celibate due to unfortunate circumstances. It ended up being co-opted by individuals incapable of self-reflection and self-improvement to understand that their celibacy is entirely based on their lack of hygiene and attitude towards women. They would rather blame the world for their problems instead of owning up to them and making positive changes in their lives.

Does identifying as an incel automatically come with those negative beliefs around gender and society, or should those two have separate terms?

Absolutely, yes. Incel culture is one of misogyny and sexism. People identifying as incels are typically the ones who blame women for not wanting to have sex with them while doing nothing to make women actually want to have sex with them.

My advice to you OP is stay far away from individuals and communities identifying as incel or pro-incel.

If it’s enforced it kind of loses it’s charm and appeal, no?

What industry OP?

Kind of reminds me of Ron Perlman not gonna lie. Maybe because of the shading and shape of the mouth area?

It’s a capitalist invention and, therefore, will be used for whatever capitalists deem it profitable to be. Once the money for AI home assistants starts rolling in, then you’ll see it adopted for that purpose.

I know. Just people on these kinds of positions used to have the brains to just ignore this stuff and pretend it doesn’t happen.

Was this guy born yesterday? You don’t “ask” the internet for anything like this. Just adds more fuel to the fire.

It’s not at all an uncommon story. Go to any women’s support group or site, and it’ll be a very consistent trend. A lot of people still have the old gender roles stuck in their heads, but they fail to acknowledge that some things have changed.

The big one is that women can now be financially independent. We’re only 2 generations away from women being able to open a bank in their name in the US. Before that, women didn’t have the financial freedom to live alone or divorce abusive/neglectful spouses.

The other one kind of ties into the first one, freedom of choice. It’s not as big an expectation for women to marry, and people are finding that a lot of women would prefer to be alone and single than married. Where do you think all these memes of childless cat ladies come from? It didn’t start with JD Vance. He just amplified it.

How boring I am.

Yep.

Network engineer here. I can’t count the number of times my mom says I’m in programming.

After a few years, my wife figured out the best way to describe my job. Doctor of the internet. This was because I was working in operations at the time and would fix network outages regularly.

Qwant is something I’ve been using for the past few months. I’ve been liking it personally.

It would help to answer your questions if you gave some examples of what you’re talking about. Which games did you have in mind?

Some random building used for parties that one person pays for regularly so everyone else can stand in social circles and talk about random topics because they have nothing better to do.

For those of you wanting to get into falconry and worry about this happening to you. Don’t worry. It’s a very rare occurrence, happening perhaps once per millenium.

The point of my original comment was on how bad compromise is in these scenarios. We got to this point where we are arguing for basic human decency with complete sociopaths. When I read your post all I could think of is “this is literally asking us to choose which demographic we should screw over for the sake of appeasement and compromise”.

I know I’m coming off really bitter, and none of it is targeted towards you. I’m just really tired of this all.

Maybe I’m too Canadian to understand but where on earth are you able to build a decent gaming PC able to play the latest AAA games on high graphics for $700?

No really, please tell me. I want to upgrade my PC.

Edit: For everyone trying to explain it to me.

1. There’s more to a PC than a CPU and GPU. Those of you giving me only those 2 that make up more than half of the $700 are kind of reinforcing my point.

2. The key thing here is running AAA games on high settings using this budget. You can’t really do that.

Oh yeah, I 100% agree with you. I don’t know what OP was thinking when making this post and listing those points.

How the hell did we even get into a situation where this is what we are choosing between? Or rather, a situation where roughly half our country actually thinks this is a choice and not just blatantly obvious based on basic morality.

Easy, we compromised :). We said ok we’ll meet you halfway on things that are absolutely crucial to humans rights for the sake of progress. Over the decades the right got more and more extreme as we continued compromising. It’s not just in the US. I see it here in Canada as well. I really hate it.