I married my wife and later we were talking (she knew I was autistic and she has ADHD) and realized she’s probably on the spectrum too, just in different ways than I

To be honest, it works out well, since our characteristics are complementary. Whether that’s down to being neurodivergent or not, I can’t say.

My ex I dated for 5 years before that had ADHD too, now that I think about it…. And my best friend realized he’s autistic last year, and we’ve been friends over a decade… Maybe neurodivergent attracts neurodivergent?

Don’t see ads for it anymore either. I kinda miss the old “how it feels to chew 5 gum” ones

I’m not sure what you mean. What aspects of it?

I cope with loud noises with AirPods Pro with noise cancellation.

I cope with communication issues by practicing phrases and explanations.

I cope with hyperfixation by setting schedules and alarms.

What do you need help with?

While I can’t relate to not enjoying lyrics in songs, I have an adjacent perspective. I love listening to each instrument on its own, like focusing on each one, but at the same time. Sounds odd, but it’s like if I close my eyes and let the music wash over me, every piece of the song plays as if individually, yet I can hear them all at once, and it is beautiful. Additionally, I like to think of vocals as their own instrument. Less of a separate thing from the instruments and instead just a different one.

This last one probably stems from my love of metal music, since often screaming and/or yelling is put in there, which means several words in a row that don’t have variations in pitch. It’s almost like “vocal percussion” in that sense.

That’s why the only take I have ever found that’s reasonable regarding religion goes a bit like this:

Hell is not real. Not in the literal sense, anyway. We all go to “heaven” or whatever afterlife it is, but we get a chance to reflect upon our entire lives. If you were a good person, then you may feel some regret for the harm you caused others, but you can generally feel satisfied with your previous existence. If you were a terrible person, you probably wouldn’t want to be around a being such as God, which, if he’s everything he’s cracked up to be, is the most “goodness” that ever good-ed. So by extension, your “hell,” your “separation from God,” would be the guilt that drives you away, by your own accord, despite his forgiveness, and not actually a sentence that you are condemned to.

I can see some merit to that thinking, at the very least it’s not completely unfair as we see with so many mainstream religious takes.

Keep trying! I did on a whim and I’m now married to her, specifically because I didn’t respond like most people did (due to aforementioned autism)

I couldn’t agree more!

IMO, ISO 8601 is better for computers, people working with multiple time zones, or critical logging.

RFC 3339 is better used colloquially, while still remaining unambiguous for the use cases that most people use dates and times in.

Z indicates UTC. Alternatively,

2023-12.12T21:18-05 for time zone as central. The UTC time zone code at the end just tells you where the time is taken from. Usually Z is used since, well, it’s “universal,” but having a +13 or -06 or whatever else brings context, and allows computers to synchronize the string of text into a comparable time for event logs and such.

The difference:

2023-12-12T21:18Z is ISO 8601 format

2023-12-12 21:18 is RFC 3339 Format

A small change

“You killed Church, you team-killing fucktard!”

So, there’s a balance. If you don’t build enough room to do anything but drive slow to be safe, the moment someone is fast, the chances of a crash are very high.

If you build a road that has too much clearance, you end up with people driving faster, which is okay because there’s more room for people to be out of the way, likely reducing the amount of crashes. The drawback to this is, if people drive faster, the fewer crashes that do occur are at higher speeds, which are more deadly.

So the ratio of number of crashes to severity of crashes is what the end result is.

Granted, I live in the US where single lane country back-roads will have people in trucks going down at 50MPH randomly, so I don’t know if Europeans drive more cautiously. I know their driving tests are more comprehensive for sure.