It’s a reply of children because adults want to be angry with them, not find out why they did something, so people like you tell them to “just be responsible” etc without ever listening or offering support.

So if an adult wants to yell at you, you say “i dont know” and let the angry windbag rant and rave. From the kid’s POV the adult/teacher don’t care about the reason (y’all usually don’t) you just want to have your ego bruised by a whole ass child dealing with whole ass life not about you being late.

But “i dont know” is easier than “mom has a new boyfriend who keeps me up all night and i sleep late” you still probably wouldn’t listen or would then tell the child how they should handle the neglect of their education by their parents themselves, rather than show empathy and understanding.

Because it’s about them listening to you, not about them being tiny people with no emotional regulation or rights trying to navigate a world where they are treated like little adults with zero power to escape abusive situations in school or at home of their own power, unlike you an adult who isnt the property of your parents.

But yeah they’re just stupid little twerps looking to pull one over on you, right? They dont have complex lives outside of their time with you, they spend all day making sure how to make you feel disrespected by showing up late!

And that is why you get “i dont know”.

It sounds like you wont listen to reason, if you dont understand or can’t experience a situation yourself.

That means you can only work with or bw friends with people like you. That’s a very small window of tolerance.

Sounds like a rigged game: if someone wants to feel like the blame is being shifted.

What good is blame anyway if you want to fix the problem in the first place? I’ll never get it. It feels primally cathartic to blame a person, but it fixes the issues to find the reason.

RimWorld and modded Pokemon Scarlett.

On one hand i am adoring Scarlett more than i expected… On the other, what I enjoy is almost exclusively from the mod, so I don’t know where to even talk about the fun i am having understanding I probably still wouldn’t want to purchase the full game, even with all the fun I am having, because the jank is only tolerable for me on an emulator with mods.

RimWorld im really into a insectoids 2 mod run. About to try my hand at vanilla expanded genetics with Alpha Animals and Rimbees.

Im vibrating for stardew valley mobile update. It’s been my favorite way to play and I wanna mod that, too. 😩

Flashbacks to when only the teacher and I understood A Modest Proposal and not being able to explain to anyone else in that class that i was appreciating that he was sassing the english NOT the actual idea of eating babies. 🙃

That giving of yourself and being discerning, you could make sure to find balanced relationships.

People lie, to you and to themselves. Everyone wants to say they’re going to be their best person when times are tough. Reality can be quite different when the pain kicks in or dynamics change.

But at this point after countless emergencies while being the one to stand up in the end to carry the sisyphean boulders, the truth is people are going to stand back in a panic when shit hits the fan and I’m going to be the one to figure things out.

Best compromise I have settled on is surrounding myself with people who will help when I ask. It’s up to me to ask, plan, and keep all our heads above water, which is exausting, but they won’t blow me off.

It’s the best I have been able to find of the available optional combination of traits in people i find attractive. 🙃

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I just checked it out last night, i had a feeling it was a fun project for the actors, regardless of the overall quality, i wanted to see how they enjoyed performing.

To be honest i didn’t hate it. It was longer than it should be, sucked itself off while also having awkward theater kid feeling moments. But i didn’t find it as disjointed as everyone talked about, if you watch some media that’s figurative you’ll be fine, it’s mostly more or less just a linear narrative following the main characters.

Honestly it wasn’t the worse use of my time, for me. My partners watched with me and one left feeling frustrated at the conclusion (no spoilers) and felt their time was wasted, while the other just could not have their attention held, there were a lot of ‘i am deep’ shots that if you dont enjoy that you just wont.

All that is to say I didn’t pay anything for it, so i had less reason to come in with any expectations. Oh, and I never found I liked the Godfather or his other “classics” so i came in expecting an old man’s passion project and that’s what i got. The actors felt like they had a blast so i couldn’t help watching the whole thing for them.

All and all, if you can see it for free and appreciate it for what it was (a fun bad movie) i think it’s fine. If anything i found the ending to be a bit saccharin for a movie that tried to be dark? Some of the parts wrapped up ridiculously im still kind of stunned.

Who needs to fix things from the ground up when you can just throw in more and more code! You can just fix it with more code!

I would think you’d understand needing to stop and fight for justice is a little more youthful than moving on, not putting a stake in something that’s really objectively a waste of your time and energy vs organizing your own space that accomplishes what you want?

Or is it easier to white knight and try and demand other spaces cater to you specifically?

Explicitly you were upset you were properly moderated, then grew indignant. The internet doesn’t exist to make you comfortable, especially in your errors. Now, at this point, you’re just kind of the stereotype “takes online so seriously they’re the other side of the troll horseshoe” because i don’t think you would grandstand so hard in a public space about being told you made a mistake.

Of course, maybe you would and have lived a privileged life where everyone always bent to you, and that’s another situation entirely. Being uncomfortable for the first time can be upsetting, and tbe internet does allow you to rant in ways i don’t think you would in a real dynamic with people you saw as real and equals in their own space that you entered voluntarily.

Do you typical get defensive when you make mistakes and people correct you or do you find this particularly hard not to feel like your ego was attacked?

The people here do like to be snarky, but welcome to the internet? Especially when someone makes themselves an amazing target by sulking or pouting. Kids always love to pick on the kid with no emotional regulation, and humans dont change much from childhood.

Lemmy is a little hard to understand at first and I am sure plenty of people get embarrassed, but do you ever find you catch a lot of flies with that vinegar or does it just make you feel better to act out?

She was a lot of getting used to. Luckily she was old when I got her so she eats twice a day, pottys three or four times, and sleeps the rest of the day away.

Still, a lot when two litter boxes and an autofeeder is all my cat needs! Weirdest part is the dog likes to lick and has actually had a few hairballs?? And my cat doesn’t?? 😂

Have a cat, was planned. Feel obligated cause i rescued her ass 8 years ago, and she’s really easy and low maintenance.

The big dog i have was rescued after an elderly family member passed away and there was no one else to take her in.

I love her to pieces but i definitely wont be getting another 60 pound+ dog in a 3 floor walk up! 😩