Are there exceptions? Absolutely.

Exceptions imply that these roles are not strictly inherent to animal (including human) behavior. If colonizing countries weren’t all patriarchal, I’m sure we would’ve seen many more exceptions.

These exceptions exist for a reason, whether or not they fit your personal worldview.

But for most of the existence of the human species, it was just like that - males were taking care of food and protection, while females were doing the “safer” jobs, like childcare of gathering.

This is just a bad argument, and has been used to justify all kinds of awful things. why would the fact that humans have always done things a certain way imply that that’s a good thing? Is slavery a good thing? rape? colonization? genocide?

Rigid gender roles have only truly served half of the human population. Even so, men have also suffered in other ways because of them. Why shouldn’t we work to better everyone’s lives, in as many ways as we can manage?

Yes, biology is complex, but the case of humans is rather clear-cut.

This is demonstrably false. Biologists have known as much for… quite a while. Please consider informing yourself before making claims about important topics.

sure, some people would, but the opinions of the kinds of people who’d be judgemental over something as trivial as a goddamn pillow really aren’t worth much imo.

Firstly, a disclaimer…while I shouldn’t really have to say this given the language I’ve used, I will anyway: I am by no means talking about ALL men.

The problem is that this is not an unfounded stereotype, made evident by the fact that the discrepancy between how household and childcare tasks are divided between partners (heterosexual, at least) is still a significant and prevalent issue.

Subconsciously or otherwise, this sadly rings true with a lot of men, who, at least in part, want—and sometimes expect—a woman who will adopt every role a mother would take. That is, taking care of most of the chores/household management/childcare duties, and without protest. Even when, say, both of them work full-time jobs.

Too many of these men either 1. do not know how to do simple household tasks (and are not unlikely to have adopted learned helplessness as a result), 2. deliberately delay or fuck up chores to get their partner to get frustrated and give up on asking for help altogether, or 3. simply don’t notice how much more work their partner is doing than they are.

I acknowledge that a lot of boys aren’t taught how to cook do chores as much as girls are, and those who haven’t been were failed by the adults in their life in that regard. It’s not a valid excuse once you’re an adult, though.

Have you had anyone take a look at your resume? When was the last time you reviewed it? Is it at least somewhat visually appealing? How long is it?

Unfortunately, it may be a good idea to “customize” each submission by incorporating keywords from the actual listing into your resume.

I’m not the one to give advice on this, really, but I’ve heard of people having a lot of success with networking and reaching out directly to recruiters/managers/ect.

that really sucks. :( it might be worthwhile to talk to a doctor about this then, if you haven’t already. Maybe you would benefit from a sleep study.

idk… the fact that you were triggered enough by their post to add this comment certainly says a lot about how “soft” you are. :) the most sensitive people I’ve ever met have been boomers, personally.

when did OP mention their age, by the way?

if not trauma, perhaps shame? subconscious or otherwise. I mean, “torment” is a pretty extreme way to describe it.

it sounds like your discomfort might be beyond the kind of discomfort one gets by simply being under the influence of a substance (though tbh, I can’t really relate lol).

unless it’s really affecting your life, I wouldn’t overthink it too much. Plenty of people have recurring unpleasant dreams/nightmares.

I wish. lol. no, I just became an adult.

I can definitely understand why someone would feel so nostalgic about them, as a fellow commie. personally, I really enjoyed our mall’s general vibe around Christmastime especially. I associate them with a more carefree time, as well.

As for me, I really miss acting. was in musicals and drama/humor speech competitions all 4 years of high school, and even went to states/nationals for the latter, then acting classes in college. it’s such a satisfying creative outlet for me.

I suppose I could start doing it again now, but the time investment would be so much more significant than it was when I was in school, and I cant help but think that my time would be better spent toward something more “productive”.

also, the daycare I went to as a little kid used to serve us soy sauce flavored ramen with mashed potatoes (including butter/milk). so healthy! 😬 I really loved it, though, as long as the noodles weren’t overcooked. I could go for some now.

I also feel particularly passionate about this, as felt totally dismissed by nearly every adult in my life as a kid. That shit feels so defeating and isolating. it can seriously fuck you up.

in addition to a lot of others already mentioned (there’s a lot of overlap)

History:

• Step Back History

culture/politics:

• Shanspeare
• FD Signifier

writing/education:

• Zoe Bee

media/ect:

• Tale Foundry (technically about writing fiction, but they also discuss media in general along with its themes, character archetypes, ect. it’s more interesting than it sounds)

• Pop Culture Detective

• Jacob Geller (mostly video games)

• My Little Thought Tree (also psychology)

• Broey Deschanel

yes, but it’s a systemic problem at its root

why? then he wouldn’t’ve been humbled in such a satisfying, heart-warming way. clearly, he hasn’t experience that nearly enough. not to mention the sheer audacity and what is very likely to be misogyny.

nice deflect. my actual point still stands, though.

TIL posting/having conversations about a characteristic of one country implies that you believe that no other countries have that same characteristic.

While I’m sure the fact that the dominance of US news and culture on the internet is probably really frustrating for non-Americans, it’s pretty natural for Americans (or anyone, really) to talk about our own country and experiences… especially while having to grapple with how things have been escalating here. You’re certainly free to share your own experiences.

The victim complex of so many white people is truly fucking wild.

Are you not already buying food anyway? No one is forcing you to do anything. But people are going to call you out for being so uninterested having an equitable society.

it is still much more difficult for people of color to become professionally successful than it is for white people. That’s a fact. There are still laws in place (and not nearly enough protections), which disproportionately harm POC.

Do they not deserve to be just as successful? To follow their dreams? To be able to support themselves and their families?

Knowing this, why wouldn’t you seek out black-owned business to help counter systemic racism? Those in power in the US, at least, aren’t going to do it. This is by their design.

I care about the well-being of everyone (well, minus the 1% and Nazis), but those who continue to be harmed by a system—that I directly benefit from as a white person—simply require more attention if we’re ever going to have an equitable society.

yes, but did its usage drastically increase because of mass marketing? your comment doesn’t contradict the comment you replied to.

I think a lot of her regret is based on our relationship now and how she wishes it could be.

Yeahhh, my mother as well. But you’re right. It helps no one to dwell on the past. Thank you for your advice.

Yeah it’s pretty ridiculous lol. And I guess she learned about the symptoms for adults specifically?