Sir Arthur V Quackington

Great link, and I fully agree. If it’s possible anyways.

I responded above, but my point kind of was that it doesn’t work that way, but as we rethinking content delivery we should also rethinking hosting distribution. What I was saying is not a “well gee we should just do this…” type of suggestion, but more a extremely high level idea for server orchestration from a public private swarm that may or may not ever be feasible, but definitely doesn’t really exist today.

Imagine if it were somewhat akin to BitTorrent, only the user could voluntarily give remote control to the instance for orchestration management. The orchestration server toggles the nodes contents so that, lets say, 100% of them carry the most accessed data (hot content, <100gb), and the rest is sharded so they each carry 10% of the archived data, making each node require <1tb total. And the node client is given X number of pinned CPUs that can be used for additional server compute tasks to offload various queries.

See, I’m fully aware this doesn’t really exist on this form. But thinking of it like a Kubernetes cluster or a HA webclient it seems like it should be possible somehow to build this in a way where the client really only needs to install, and say yes to contribute. If we could cut it down to that level, then you can start serving the site like a P2P bittorrent swarm, and these power user clients can become nodes.

I realize that is not how the fediverse works. I’m not speaking about the content delivery as much as the sever orchestration.

That’s why I’m saying if somehow it could work that way, it would be one way to offset the compute and delivery burdens. But it is a very different paradigm from normal hosting. There would have to be some kind of swarmanagement layer that the main instance nodes controlled.

My point was only that, should such a proposal be feasible one day, if you lower the barriers you could have more resources.

I myself have no interest in hosting a full blown private instance of Lemmy or mastodon, but I would happily contribute 1tb of storage and a ton of idle compute to serving the content for my instance if I could. That’s where this thinking stemmed from. Many users like me could donate their “free” idle power and space. But currently it is not feasible.

Provided there is an “upper limit” on what scale we are talking, Ive often wondered, couldn’t private users also host a sharded copy of a server instance to offset load and bandwidth? Like Folding@Home, but for site support.

I realize this isn’t exactly feasible today for most infra, but if we’re trying to “solve” the problem, imagine if you were able to voluntarily, give up like 100gb HDD space and have your PC host 2-3% of an instance’s server load for a month or something. Or maybe just be a CDN node for the media and bandwidth heavy parts to ease server load, while the server code is on different machines.

This kind of distributed “load balancing” on private hardware may be a complete pipe dream today, but it think if might be the way federated services need to head. I can tell you if we could get it to be as simple as volunteers spinning up a docker, and dropping the generated wireguard key and their IP in a “federate” form to give the mini-node over to an instance, it would be a lot easier to support sites in this way.

Speaking for myself, I have enough bandwidth and space I could lend some compute and offset a small amount of traffic. But the full load of a popular instance would be more than my simple home setup is equipped for. If contributing hosting was as easy as contributing compute, it could have a chance to catch on.

If you show up in person it was not, but the resale market and board partners kind of screwed this up.

AMD and Intel both need to be launching FEs and pushing the price down and making these board partners look bad.

Linux Distro made to accommodate Windows Users by being as similar as is reasonable in UI and organization: AnduinOS.

If you try it, use 1.3, as you are not an enterprise use case.

Did you follow a guide, or know one you could link? I’m thinking this is the path for me and my friends too.

People have to eat.

Fundamentally the US is broken, and people don’t have themselves to support themselves very long.

Medical debt can wipe out your meager gains incredibly fast. The stock market tanking erases your only real savings you may have had.

Under those circumstances, it’s hard to take action when your hustling to survive.

These kinds of questions are best discussed with a therapist if you can see one, but yes, you can improve, and it doesn’t mean you have to be solo to do it. But try not to let the relationship define you. You need to be a whole, complete person without the external validation. Taking pride in your appearance is good, but feeling like you cannot show your most intimate partner your bare face is some regressive thinking from older generations we should leave behind.

In time I hope you feel happier and more comfortable just being you, regardless of being with someone. Being able to find self worth solo makes you much, much more rounded as a person, healthier, and ultimately a better partner too. Good luck.

The comment above is a half serious joke, but you do seem rather desperate for the approval of your partner and their validation. This isn’t totally healthy, and on one hand can be suffocating potentially, but can also be abused by a bad actor if you happen to date one. And those kinds of partners can sense and prey on that part of you.

I hope you have some positive friendships and relationships to help offset whatever is driving this feeling in you. In a perfect world, I’d say speak with a therapist but who can afford healthcare nowadays.

This is a hard thing to just say, but I hope you can understand that some of your fear and jealousy here is probably stemming from a lack of self confidence.

I say this, because I hope you can reflect on that, and be aware that some partners will understand and exploit that if you are not careful. This guy doesn’t sound like that, but maybe your next relationship is.

As others have said, try to have open communication, and accept sometimes if your values are fundamentally different. Sometimes people just are. Some can have open relationships happily, some thing looking at porn is cheating. Without judgement, both can be valid as long as both partners communicate and agree on that.

My feeling is generally the more secure you are in yourself and your sexuality, the less jealous and the less concerned you will be come with these things, and the more confidence you will have to cut off shitty partners who violate the norms you set. If your relationship is okay with porn, but not dating apps, then fuck them of they are browsing Tinder, even “just to look”.

Communicate, but also value yourself. This guy may be perfect, but maybe he’s not perfect for you. And that’s okay. Your chances of meeting someone gold are far better than you think if you keep your head up and go in eyes wide open than try and ignore issues.

Anyways, I hope some of this is moderately helpful to you. I hope you and him can work out, but I also hope you don’t compare yourself to camgirls or porn, ever. Fantasies are just that, we all have them. And they should never hurt your self worth.

Be well.

Agreed on both Organic Maps and Magic Earth.

Organic Maps let’s you login to Open Street Map, so you can submit revisions and reviews. It’s my goto right now for an alternative.

Giving up Google Maps is hard though, they bake it into a ton of services. Everyone mocked it, myself included, when Apple maps launched, but I’m now really glad they are a player in this space.

I didn’t even know raccoon existed.

But I love that Lemmy has so many options.

Will check it out. Seems the dev is working on an update for Android 15 compatibility.

Hilarious that this is being promoted on Xbox. Absolutely ridiculous Sony didn’t keep this team going.

The TTS uses whisper and absolutely dominates. But it is garbage still as a swipe interface. It direly needs to catch up on that front before I can recommend it full-time to friends. I spend SO much time retyping things it gets wrong.

Been using Connect, and currently trying Summit (very nice interface).

I might give Thunder a try.

This is the way.

There is. Plenty of giant titties on trad wives in the Steam category for porn games. Oddly that seems to overlap with this audience strongly…