Technology Connections is going to turn into the XKCD of explainer videos.

Nah, their high class, it would be a printed off certificate and a pizza party forgetting that I’m severely lactose intolerant.

I do this too, though I have one scenario that I replay variations of where a disgruntled employee comes back with a group of mercenaries to take revenge and “do damage to the company” and I take them down John McClane style.

I of course am handsomely rewarded by the company and both respected and a little feared by my coworkers. That’s usually where I snap out of it since that’s the most unbelievable part.

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I bought a brother color laser printer during lockdown, 4 years and it’s never had an issue, and I have yet to change the cartridges. I’ll never go back to inkjet.

In 1st grade I couldn’t spell worth a damn, the teacher told us to write “in the future I want to be” then write what we wanted to be when we grew up. I wrote mine, handed it in, and later that day my parents got called in.

After a parent teacher conference they called me in and asked me to read what I had wrote, I read exactly what I was told to write them looked at them confused about what was wrong. The teacher calmly stood up walked to the chalkboard and wrote future, then explained that the word I had written was a bad word and I need to remember how to spell future. Later in the car I asked my parents what was the word I wrote, and they said it’s a bad word. After nagging all the way home my dad snapped and said “you wrote fucker, it’s a bad word and don’t ever say say it”.

I’m 41 now and they still bring that one up from time to time. Turns out when the teacher went to the chalkboard she was trying to avoid looking at my parents who were trying not to laugh, and that was making her laugh, so she turned to the chalkboard to get herself under control.

Thanks for the explanation, I finally had a little time to read up on the stag hunt aspect and what I read basically said what you said just in a more long winded way, lol.

Not a problem, hope it helps. I’ve been there, I spent 12 1/2 years self-employed, my boss was such an ass I had to threaten to unionize to get any change. Yeah definitely look into neurofeedback if you get the chance, it can really help. Just a heads up, I’ve seen apps that claim to do the same thing, their crap, it’s just a placebo that you get a subscription for.

We all have to find what works for us, and it looks like you’ve found your’s. You can try experimenting with different times and different break methods, just make sure to pay attention to the outcome. Also being self-employed you won’t have the benefit/burden of having a supervisor holding you accountable, so I would suggest logging your times, you may think something is working but once you write it out and see a pattern you can see if it really is or not… I totally haven’t fallen into this trap and am totally not speaking from experience…lol.

Always willing to help where I can, if you want to message me feel free. If I can help I will, I may be slow to respond though, life and all.

Yep. Also I’m old too, I remember when AIM was going to kill IRC.

Mostly it’s everyday stuff, stuff I used to stress about now I’m like, eh it’ll get done. Social acceptance is another one, I used to worry about people liking me and couldn’t get past it if someone I thought I was on good terms with didn’t like me. Now I worry about that much less, don’t get me wrong I still want people to like me, but if they don’t I can just accept it and move on.

As an example, there was a guy in my office who hated me, I was never anything but nice to him, but he just hated me. The problem was we regularly had to work together on things. In the past I would have been going out of my way to try and get him to like me and find out what it was that he had against me. Now, ok you don’t like me, let’s just keep the interactions professional and to the point, and I’ll just leave you alone the rest of the time.

Basically you just learn to accept yourself and be happy with the good people and events in your life, and learn to just accept and move on from the others.

I’m familiar with the prisoners dilemma but not the stag hunt aspect, I’ll have to take your word for it until I have time to read up on that.

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Yeah I’m definitely going to have to take a second look at that, I may soon have to read a bunch of government rules and regulations documents if I get a promotion I’m shooting for, and being able to have that read them to me would be a huge help.

The only reason I would say you should still try for a diagnosis is that it would allow you to request minor accommodations to help you at work. My supervisor knows about my diagnosis and knows that I’m going to show inactive from time to time because I’ve taken a break to rest my brain by goofing off on my phone. She also knows that I’m still at my computer and ready to take a call if one comes in during that time. I admit I got lucky with my boss, and not every employer will allow that kind of thing, but it’s worth a shot, my boss saw how my productivity stayed up when I took small breaks vs. when I didn’t, so that helped. If you have a good relationship with your boss then maybe research work place coping techniques and develop a plan for how to use them. Then go to your boss and explain that while you did not get diagnosed you were right on the edge and you want to try these techniques to help you improve your productivity.

Yeah this ADHD life is good, I haven’t been through the site in a few years but I doubt it’s gotten worse since my last time there and it was already recommendation worthy back then. Honestly I bet you could find a bunch of coping techniques right on the site.

Side note, if you do get diagnosed and the doctor mentions neurofeedback do it if you can. My doctor took part in the trials for ADHD and I was one of the test subjects. After two years of training and testing I gained a ton of control, not 100% of course, but enough that I’ve never been prescribed medication.

Seriously, I’m 41 and over the last year I’ve slowed slipped into fuck it mode. Don’t get me wrong, I still have plenty of things I care about, but so many little things I’ve just stopped caring about and my life is so much more relaxed because of it. It’s amazing what hitting 40 can do to your mindset.

Look at it this way, in a small town people are more likely to be kind and offer higher quality information when asked. The same things can be said about lemmy.

I have 3, 2 ovals and 1 circle.

I actually recently checked out elevenlabs, the free tier seemed so limited it didn’t seem like it would work, maybe I’ll have to check them out again and dig a little deeper. Thanks for the suggestion.

Yeah I lucked out with him for sure. The guy he replaced was good, but still operated with an old school corporate mindset.

I got lucky with my diagnosis, my doctor also had ADHD and even though I still had to do the testing to be sure he basically diagnosed me on our first visit. He was also able to teach me how to manage my impulses and channel the energy into projects I can get passionate about. If you are right on the edge I’d seek a second opinion, I’m not knocking the previous doctor but a different one might pick up on something that would put you over the threshold.

If nothing else research coping strategies on your own. Check out this ADHD life, I connected with him years ago through comedy podcast we both listened to and he’s got some great resources.

Text to speech is a good idea but it would have to be natural sounding, I find the typical ones are robotic sounding and distracting, for me at least.

Yeah he’s a good guy, we actually graduated together but were just casual acquaintances at that time. A few years back I was covering a holiday and it was just the two of us, nothing going on so we sat at my desk and started talking about highschool, after a while we got to talking about what we saw as the future of the department (he had just been promoted to head the department) and we found out we shared a bunch of ideas. He’s never said anything but I wouldn’t be surprised if he’s had to slow roll my promotion because of the highschool ties.

Yeah it’s weird, you would think it would distract you but it doesn’t. On the music thing, I’ve found that classical music helps me focus but other types don’t. To be specific piano and violin music seems to work best for me. But that’s really only when I’m writing, when I’m working on a problem podcasts, audiobooks, and music I’ve heard a million times already work just fine, new music will distract me though, it has to be stuff I already know.

So I just got done reading up on this book and ordered a copy. Thanks, I might also grab the audiobook since I sometimes have problems focusing on reading, and listening to a book is the only way I can finish it.

Funnily enough the boss is extremely open to new ideas and recognizes that I’m ready to move on. He’s already told me that he’s petitioning for extra budget now that we have surplus money company wide so that he can move me and two others up into low level management in project management roles. As he said the project management title will be fluid since each of you will be doing wildly different things based on your strengths.

I’m down for it since the majority of the things he says he wants to assign me are things I want to do. Sure there’s a few things I’m not crazy about, but they aren’t anywhere near deal breakers.