To be fair, especially to parents I get the part of grieving of someone you love not being there anymore. But if that person isn’t really dead but just a different (better) version of the person, I don’t really get how you can believe you are greaving while you’re simultaneously not keeping that person close to you? I mean, that will only make the loss worse, right?
But I think that’s not a weird thing for a parent (not saying it is normal to not want to speak to your child because they are different then you expected, or to dislike them for being who they were born to be).
Yeah, the phenomenon isn’t unique to trans people if viewed through the lens of expectations for their child. It just takes on a much more extreme reaction/framing when transphobia is involved.
I don’t begrudge my mom for feeling sad about realizing I’m not who she wanted me to be, but those aren’t feelings you should voice to your child who is already struggling.
No totally fair, it’s not your fault she had those expectations as well. Any parent should be supportive of their child and I agree you are not the one she should bother with those feelings. Wish you the best.
Watch that Elon Musk interview with Jordan Peterson. Elon seriously says that his “son” died to “the Woke Mind Virus”. (His daughter Vivian is trans and is happily living far away from her father in Japan.)
I watched her interview with Hasan, and the thing that surprised me the most is she’s just a normal-ass 20-year-old. I never would’ve expected one of Elon’s kids to be that well-adjusted.
I’m sorry, what? Do people actually say that?? Wtf?
yea, they say that, or what I’ve seen often is “im grieving the death of my son!!”
like, why not celebrate the birth of your daughter instead?
To be fair, especially to parents I get the part of grieving of someone you love not being there anymore. But if that person isn’t really dead but just a different (better) version of the person, I don’t really get how you can believe you are greaving while you’re simultaneously not keeping that person close to you? I mean, that will only make the loss worse, right?
They’re grieving the loss of who they expected their kid to be
But I think that’s not a weird thing for a parent (not saying it is normal to not want to speak to your child because they are different then you expected, or to dislike them for being who they were born to be).
Yeah, the phenomenon isn’t unique to trans people if viewed through the lens of expectations for their child. It just takes on a much more extreme reaction/framing when transphobia is involved.
I don’t begrudge my mom for feeling sad about realizing I’m not who she wanted me to be, but those aren’t feelings you should voice to your child who is already struggling.
No totally fair, it’s not your fault she had those expectations as well. Any parent should be supportive of their child and I agree you are not the one she should bother with those feelings. Wish you the best.
i would certainly begrudge my parents a little bit for wanting me to be anything more specific than “happy”
like it’s not the worst thing ever but wtf mom, really?
Both my partner and parents said that, it’s quite common.
Relatives usually
If it’s just relatives saying that, you might have a good social circle, because relatives are the only ones you can’t choose.
Watch that Elon Musk interview with Jordan Peterson. Elon seriously says that his “son” died to “the Woke Mind Virus”. (His daughter Vivian is trans and is happily living far away from her father in Japan.)
To which Vivian responded “i look pretty good for a dead bitch”. What a queen.
I watched her interview with Hasan, and the thing that surprised me the most is she’s just a normal-ass 20-year-old. I never would’ve expected one of Elon’s kids to be that well-adjusted.