I’m gay. I’m agender, and I like enbies better than men and women.

The other day in an argument I got frustrated with someone and told them to call me a homophobic slur. One part sarcasm, one part hoping they’d actually do it and get in trouble. Instead, I got punished for using the word. I wasn’t expecting that, because I’m gay. If I call myself a f-----, I didn’t think that was anyone else’s problem.

Was I right? Is it okay for me to use that word, talking about myself?

  • Leraje@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    2 days ago

    For you personally to use that word to describe or allude to yourself and only yourself seems like something thats totally your call.

    I do have to say though that encouraging someone else to use a word that is (or was once) a slur - especially if they are not gay themselves and therefore cannot possibly be reclaiming it - feels like a regressive and fairly crappy thing to do (assuming that they are straight).