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Cake day: August 15th, 2023

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  • As everyone else has said: kidney issue. If its an infection (you should definitely get this checked out), you’re going to need antibiotics. Drink a lot of water - like, a lot - and introduce cranberry juice to your drinking habits (won’t fix the infection but there’s some evidence its preventative).

    If its a stone then get ready for the worst pain in the world but also drink a lot of water to help break it up/aid its passage through.

    TL;DR - get a GP appointment and start drinking a fuck ton of water.



  • The only rules that matter are the ones you and your date agree on and largely revolve around where it is you decide to meet. There’s nothing wrong with either of you having a drink if you’re somewhere that serves alcohol. There’s a lot wrong if either of you go on a bender. There’s also nothing wrong with drinking a soft drink too. Or doing an activity based date rather than a food/drink oriented one.

    Just communicate openly with each other before the date with an eye towards your dates feelings/perception of safety.




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    20 days ago

    Honestly, I am not trying to bait you or troll you or anything else when I say this but if you equate a simple request for context with toxicity you’re clearly not approaching this realistically or rationally.

    You might well be right and you’ve been treated very poorly but literally no one on this thread apart from you can ever know that and no one is just going to take someone’s word for it.












  • Maybe uncharitably, my first thought when reading a post like this is “what shitty thing do you want to say?”.

    But I don’t know you so maybe I am being uncharitable.

    But you have to realise the fediverse in general is not owned by capitalist orgs with high priced legal teams. Its mostly small teams of private individuals. If someone posts something illegal, including defamatory, in their legal jurisdiction (which is probably not the USA) then they might be on the hook for it too.

    Even if you run your own instance if you’re enough of a dick it’ll get defederated or you’ll be banned from multiple instances/communities.

    Learn to play nice in other peoples yard. Its hard sometimes but just walking away and blocking is the best option. Sometimes I need to make more effort to do that too.