I’m gay. I’m agender, and I like enbies better than men and women.
The other day in an argument I got frustrated with someone and told them to call me a homophobic slur. One part sarcasm, one part hoping they’d actually do it and get in trouble. Instead, I got punished for using the word. I wasn’t expecting that, because I’m gay. If I call myself a f-----, I didn’t think that was anyone else’s problem.
Was I right? Is it okay for me to use that word, talking about myself?
I personally wouldn’t. I’ve had a Black teacher telling Black classmates in my class to not use the N word, not even the variant ending in “-a”.
As a Chinese American, I would not use these slurs to refer to myself nor any of my fellow Asian Americans.
I mean it’s your choice, in real life you have free speech in many jursidictions, so its not illegal, but like I just don’t agree with the idea of reclaiming slurs and other gay people might get offended at that use.
To me, if someone used those words, its internalized hatred towards their race/sexuality.