I’m not saying it’s perfect, but it’s definitely not as “backhanded” as the other one. In fact, that “compliment”, especially in the context of the meme, implies they didn’t realize the person is transgender until it was somehow pointed out explicitly, because of the whole “wow, you’re trans?” part.
I can see what you mean, but you still get reminded that you are trans/don’t get clocked fully as the gender you’re presenting as.
I’m not saying it’s perfect, but it’s definitely not as “backhanded” as the other one. In fact, that “compliment”, especially in the context of the meme, implies they didn’t realize the person is transgender until it was somehow pointed out explicitly, because of the whole “wow, you’re trans?” part.