This is why I need internet. Every time a question pops up (like etymology of some word or what is the native range of some bird or other obscure stuff) I can just search for the answer. Sometimes the information doesn’t exist, but even that is an answer, just not the one you wanted. Obviously it can also spiral into finding so much interesting stuff that you forget everything else and do couple hours or pointless research into subject that doesn’t really matter, but that’s not a downside if you look at it from a certain perspective.
What I really don’t understand is how so many people end up wondering about some facts in a conversation, then everyone goes “huh, that’s a good question” and just drop the subject and talk about something else. It usually takes less than a minute to do a quick search and everyone has a phone these days. So… how? How?!
I am currently reading into the religion of ancient germanic tribes. Sadly WE HAVE NOTHING! EVERYTHING IS LOST TO TIME!
We have a few names, but that is basicly it. Roman and christian sources are heavily bias so they cant be trustet
That’s really interesting. Can we make any educated guesses about what it was like?
Well we know how they lived and their culture (as always it depends on the region), how they dressed.
Religion wise, we know they had similar gods to to the norse/north germanics (skandinavia. You know thor, odin, frija, loki aso). They put people into the swamp. Criminals and religiouse human saceafises. We know that its religiouse human sacrafises because there are also animals and tools found in swamp beds.
Burrials and funerals were different to each region and tribe. Many in the south and north west burried their people in hills, like the celts. The bodies sometimes were put in specific positions. As the romans arrived, these practises noticeablely changed. Building dedicated buildings, giving offerings and money. From what i have also read is that cremetion and burning the body was also a common practise.
But how they really worshipped, and their mythologie we have nothing on as faar as i know.
Idk if that is true but i think we also know that they, also had some spiritual leaders. Oracles. Young virgin woman that could predict the future threw bones, weather speak to the gods and stuff, that had a set place where they lived and rulers traveled to them.
Things are waaayyy worse with the celts though. We know they had these druids. But we do not know what their job in society was. We guess they were spiritual leaders, maybe also medical, maybe diplomatic. The druids were not just a closed off people. Didnt write anything down themself, the forest was holy and no one but druids was allowed to be at their meetings and in their forrest.
That’s really interesting thanks!
I am working on a mod for a game (and applying that same knowledge to a game later on)
So lots of theologie research. Its crazy.
There was a group of christians in the Mesopotamian delta in the early centurys of christianity, that saw incest as a holy ritus because adam and eve were siblings and therefore performed incest
Always. I always must understand why something needs to be done before I do it. Rare exceptions in people I have an absolute trust to make decisions for me.
The most annoying urge and no one else seems to understand that I need to understand why I’m doing something so that I can do it properly and know how to react if something happens that wasn’t planned for.
What’s with this new trend to label normal behavior as somehow related to ADHD or autism? Only morons don’t want to know why ffs
Peeing is also normal behavior. But it’s not normal if you have to pee every 30 minutes.
What’s with this new trend of invalidating ADHD and autism symptoms simply because you don’t experience it to a degree that impacts your quality of life?
ADHD and autism don’t have one specific symptom. It’s a thousand little things that drive you insane from having to conform to neurotypical behavior.
Let patients share their experiences without normalizing and invalidating their condition.
It’s always ‘everyone has ADHD these days’ just like how people day 'everyone is LGBTQ these days. It’s never ‘underserved and underdiagnosed ADHD patients are finally getting recognition these days’.
Boys are 16x more likely to get an ADHD diagnosis than girls. The vast majority of backlash against ADHD patients on social media are against women and PoC who are finally speaking out against the medical neglect. Women traditionally present different symptoms because girls are punished more heavily for exhibiting ADHD behaviors than boys are. Same goes for autism.
Remember that a lack of diagnosis does not indicate the lack of ADHD and autism. Modern medicine is rife with systemic inequality. Undiagnosed ADHD and autism patients are frequently penalized and not rewarding for concealing their symptoms. The more effort they put into concealing them, the more heavily criticized they are for ‘faking’ it.
I see you guys are taking this way too seriously so ok… I’m not invalidating anything, and for that matter I haven’t noticed any such trend in media either. In fact, I would go as far as to say that attributing “normal” behaviors to ADHD and autism is ultimately what invalidates these conditions. My initial comment stemmed from me seeing meme after meme about ADHD and being like, wait I’m like that too, maybe I have it. But then as this trend goes on I observed that most of the people I know also have - to some degree - most symptoms mentioned in said memes. In short I bet if one were to base the description of ADHD on the memes going round, most people could get a positive diagnosis. My personal opinion is that this has to do with societal expectations when it comes to education and employment as they have developed over the last couple of decades. We are slowly recognizing that our capitalist way of life with its pursuit of infinitely increasing productivity is not in line with human nature thus we’re “creating” this condition that somehow everyone is suffering from to attribute feelings of inadequacy.
Adhd in particular is a very “everyone can relate, only people with adhd have their lives crippled by it” thing. To some degree this applies to many mental disorders (e.g. everyone has some anxiety).
The need to know why is clearly not a normal thing or I wouldnt have had the frequent experience of people getting mad at me for demanding the why or, which is still utterly confusing to me, for explaining the why when asking someone to do something.
I suppose context is important in the needing to know why. Can you give an example of a time someone got mad?
Usually when it’s things that are “socially expected” but don’t make sense to me in that moment. Like being asked to wait with eating food until everyone has some (still don’t really get it, but “it’s a social norm and people will feel bad” is sufficient for adult me since it’s really nbd. As a kid no one even explained that far though, just that it’a a thing you do because you do.).
In general as an adult its been pretty rare since I’ve learned it’s not worth the effort (and whatever if it makes people happy then cool), and if I really don’t wanna do something I consider pointless (like wearing a suit - which I’d first have to buy - to a wedding in 30° heat as someone who is already very uncomfortable in shorts and t shirt in 22°) people are more likely to respect it because they can’t really force me anymore.
I do think the more common one (that still happens a bunch) is when providing the why, or more generally when providing extra information. It seems to me people often assume I’m overly criticizing when I do that. Like “can you add this thing to the sheet I think it’d be helpful when <3 sentences of the context in which I think it’s good to have>” tends to get worse reactions than “can you add this thing to the sheet I think it’d be helpful”.
So same as the food thing, maybe it’s more about wanting far more detailed explanations than about wanting one at all. But to me the less detailed one often doesn’t feel like a real explanation, moreso a justification.
What’s with this new trend to label normal behavior as somehow related to ADHD or autism?
That’s always been around. Another example: having enough interest & focus to get good at something difficult. When someone suggests that isn’t normal (rather than a natural result of persistent effort & willpower), it really indicates to me a shortcoming in whoever believes that (why don’t they think they could do the same if they seriously tried? are they a moron?).
The vast VAST majority of NT are morons.
Then there is also the whole “it isn’t the trait itself being an autistic trait, it is the compulsion of that trait that is an autistic trait”
Nearly everyone has curiosity, yes, but it is a common autistic trait to have a compulsive need for that information in order for them to function properly. That is what makes it an autistic trait.
This type of ignorant prejudice is truly moronic and it’s really unfortunate how prevalent it is in this thread.
Cry me a river and then float down it.
Be a better person.
and who the fuck are you to determine what is or isn’t better? Piss off.
Also, it’s just a factual statement. The vast majority of people are morons; the vast majority of people are also NT; ipso facto: the vast majority of NT are morons.
Not factual, no. The vast majority of people are average, by definition.
No one really, just a person with a general aversion to bigots. Continue being shitty, I guess.
“NT”?
Neurotypical, meaning not neurodivergent. They think that everyone who isn’t like them is a moron. Sounds just like every other bigot tbh.
I want to know why other ppl don’t want to know why
Everyone has a different amount of curiosity for different things. Just because someone doesn’t want to know how a carburetor works doesn’t mean they aren’t interested in other things.
Also curiosity can be a luxury. Some people are very focused on following the beaten path because they think it might be safer. Start asking questions and rocking boats and you might cause problems. Curiosity killed the cat and all that. Over a lifetime people settle into their own groove of curiosity and satisfaction.
Because neurotypicals don’t actually think, they just respond to stimuli
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You can deny it for now but someday you’ll agree with me. All it takes is enough exposure
Like, the vast majority really do seem to just have no conscious train of thought. They just act on impulse and only start to think when their impulse doesn’t produce the expected response, that is if they don’t just lash out and get angry because it isn’t the way they want it to be.
Or persist in a series of varying thoughtless reactions, whether lashing out or simply engaging without stopping to think with ‘depth’.
Though, I’ve also come to understand many people seem to have no model for cognitive engagement. Like, “How do I think about this situation I’m in?”. So, I try to give some grace, but, ffs, what the damn… I wish more people would just physically stop, physically pause, and think before doing something which just causes a bigger problem. Like gd, why is everyone in my family like this…
Nothing will piss me off more than the response “I don’t know; I just did it cause I felt like it” after something that was incredibly obvious to be a bad decision if the person would have just taken two seconds to consider the details.
To interact with the social world the way others do, we need to learn the mechanisms behind social interactions to a level that others don’t. This urge to know why a social behaviour works before we can properly use it (manners, aggression, group identity, coercion, lying) carries over to physical things and systems in the real world (electricity, trains, cooking, cats, jobs, cars)
We need not understand the entire scope of the thing or concept (though we often do), but understanding the boundaries of the thing, where the walls of the box are, helps us understand the limits of our expectations for it. We know it can’t leave the box. When we encounter something brand new, a behaviour, situation, environment or task, we feel fear, because at that moment, the box has infinite size, and only by learning about it can we make the box smaller and more manageable.
Yes. It’s why I’m in university in middle age, acquiring science degrees. Unfortunately most of what I’ve learned is “we don’t know yet”!
As a child I used to annoy the hell out of my mother, by asking why… I’m a scientist now. Now I wonder why, as the pay is shit 😂
Shout out from IT: pay is good, working there today is shit (agile) and confusing as hell.
As a child I used to annoy the hell out of my mother, by asking why
This is true for literally every kid. All kids are born scientists but many lose interest or get frustrated over time
When I was a kid and bugged my mom with ‘why’, she’d hand me a book about it and it would shut me up for hours
And yet I’m told that millenial parents doing the same with their kids and youtube is fine and just like how my mother would hand me a book
And we’re seeing the results come through highschool rn
I’m not sure if I understand it. Are you framing it as a bad thing that your mother got you a book about stuff you were interested in?
No I am saying that youtube is a poor substitute for reading
The neurotypical urge to not have a good enough answer and then bully the autistic person for asking the question.
(Not a comment on the post, just a frustration)
Literally every manager I have had the displeasure of working under.
This is part of what I call “the allistic disability”. They always tried to make us believe we are disabled, but are we really?
are we really?
In many key aspects of day-to-day life…yes, we absolutely are.
It was a joke.
I understand that there are hardships linked to our condition, but many of them are not caused by our condition, rather by the world not willing to accomodate us the same way they accomodate NT’s.
That’s the same with most disabilities. For instance, blindness does have some intrinsic hardship, but then it also has the hardships that come from a society that assumes you have vision and does not accommodate you.
For some people absolutely, but “day-to-day life” is built to not only serve “neurotypical” people but generally to make sure the worst of them don’t need to actually improve anything. Pretty much entire concept of “polite society” and the cowardly basis behind so many instances of “that’s just how we do it ok?!” are rooted in people who cannot effectively communicate blaming you for not being exactly like them and/or afraid to speak up against their authority. People who “don’t understand social situations”, in my experience, are often just people who have a harder time letting assholes steamroll though and like, yea it sucks for them when society punishes them but it’s not their fault that society is a collection of highly flawed rules whichbessentially boil down to demands to not question authority.
Some autustic people have genuine problems that give them problems even when/if those around them have the patience to work with them. Many just make certain worthless people insecure and that’s not their fault.
All of this.
The majority of social disabilities wouldn’t be disabling if it wasn’t for the fact society is intentionally structured to be oppressive and restrictive in order to maintain the power of the ruling authority.
Yeah we’re different to NTs, we have different perks but defecates in lots of areas.
I fit in well enough but notice where I’ve said something that’s quite specific to my interests or believed something that was obviously a joke. Shit sucks but every day it gets easier, lean into it and don’t be afraid to be yourself.
We’re not normal but fuck it we ballin’
edit: leaving the autocorrect in, was a ~1am post for me 🫠
I’m not normally one to point out a spelling mistake, but there is a very important difference between someone with deficits in lots of areas and someone who defecates in lots of areas.
That looks like an autocorrect, not a spelling mistake, and a hilarious one at that!
Did you just say you shit in a lot of places?
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The neurtypical urge to agree what the autist is saying is correct, but refuses to accept it or act on it because they don’t like the way they are being told about it, then to in the end blame the autist when the predicted catastrophe comes because ‘you didn’t try hard enough to convince me’
It has brought be very close to being arrested more than once and I’m sure I’ll be in jail over this in the fullness of time.
I’m not autistic but my partner is, can confirm she has it.
It makes me great at independent learning. It also makes me horrible at following orders. A “do this thing” without a “because” will get done quite differently to what you’d expect, if at all.
but why?
Yes. I can’t help that everything is fascinating to me…
What is the purpose of this post?
Why do you ask?
I need to know why
Why do you need to know it?
The existential dread of not knowing; gnaws at my psyche in uncomfortable ways that I cannot adequately put into words.
