• Stupidmanager@lemmy.world
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      Look, I did it at 47. Take the time to make a good profile, ask for help on pics and be an authentic you. It’s a mess out there, for those that never try.

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        ask for help on pics

        I would like to second this point, especially if you’re not practiced at taking selfies. I’ve seen some fine looking men IRL whose profile pictures looked like potato.

        It doesn’t have to be this way. People like to help, and most would be happy to see you meet someone special. Might as well ask.

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          I may or may not be one of these people that suck at selfies. But damn if my profile pics weren’t top amateur talent from my sister. I may not have had dating life partner success(yet), but I’ve had a good number of dates that went some distance.

          I repeat for those not listening: Effort pays off.

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          Thirded. People like to think that their match will be deep enough to look past something superficial like a bad photo, but that’s not how most of us work. People see a decent photo and then check the rest.

          You don’t have to be a model or movie star. Good lighting. Clothes that fit. A background that’s not, like, a dingy bathroom or your car.

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        The pics part is weird because it’s like… I’m supposed to have other people’s photos of me? I don’t have photos of me. Why would I take a photo of the same thing I see every morning like I’m just trying to say hello to the world, like I’m an actually happy, well-adjusted person who wants to update all of his friends on his day… oh, that’s, ok. I get it now. That’s why.

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          Yep. It takes a minute to break that mindset. Worse is remembering on trips, like on my last one I forgot to take a pic while walking the amazing vineyard.

          Feels like a meat market, but the effort helps.

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      If they aren’t divorced they are probably crazy.

      Target the divorced MILFs. That’s your best bet. This also applies if you’re a cis-het woman.

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          I have serious questions about a 23-year-old that wanted anything to do with me.

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            They have questions too. Like what level of life insurance do you have? Are beneficiaries easy to add? And what kind of food is your favorite?

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            A few months back there was some post about female inmates looking for pen pals. I remember one profile describing herself as submissive and looking for a daddy. I did some research and saw she was in the slammer for diddling with a 12 year old girl. Not sure if that leaves many questions open.